I read all these pages, now I'm just waiting patiently

http://www.google.com/search?sourceid=navclient&ie=UTF-8&rls=GGLR,GGLR:2006-04,GGLR:en&q=dating+during+divorce I read most of them.

http://www.gagelaw.com/DatingDuringDivorce.shtml

http://www.divorcerecovery101.com/legal_hazards.html

http://www.ncfamilylaw.com/download/date46.html

the other was a google search

I don't know your circumstances, but I will be happy to have this feeling. Because my H has moved on 2 months ago and we are still married.

Am new to ds and like you, not yet legally divorced but been separated for months.
I think 'divorce' begins from within yourself way before "it" happens.
I say if you are sure its over. Move on.

I would wait until at least it is final. For your own good.

Trust me..slow down. If I had slowed down I would be in much better shape today. You will learn quickly that your heart is not as ready as you may think. I dated a guy almost 4 months after I was separated. We've been off and on for over a year and I can't seem to get around our "friendship". I truly believe I seem like a real nut to this guy, while I try to figure out who I am without being a wife. Being attracted to someone is great, maybe you can go out on a group date but please slow it down.

I think the timeline is different for everyone.. some can't possible think of dating until the paper says they are divorced. I was emotionally abused for years.. so emotionaly I was really "ready" when he threw me out.. so I have been dating for months now.. and it has been 11 months since the separation...

what I guess everyone is saying is "don't date" just because you are alone and don't want to be.. date because it is the right time for you and you have healed and are ready for a new relationship....

Does that make any sense to you?

I thought I was ready but then some how SAW those web pages and figured I'm better off not having anything cause any competitve jealousy while that could interfere.

Learning patience and gratitude. Besides, nobody's exactly lining up at the door waiting.

but yeah, everyone has to decide when it's right.. if someone's asking.. otherwise it's easy to wait

Maybe it depends on "how married" you were?

Not trying to split hairs...but a lot of people here saw themselves as being half of a Couple. That is something Big to get over.

Some weren't dealing with anything even closely resembling a marriage, and it's not going to be such a big deal to date again.

Just speaking from an Emotional view point.

Yeah, no way do I want to date and make things weirder. I am liking talking to people, ah that's all I can give right now. I am making a circle of friends...I am trying to get outside myself and I am seeing needs for having friends, going to events...all my friends know of the divorce and they are steering me away from dating. I guess for me moving on is finding my bliss right now.

I know where you are at. You dont know if you are on hold because you are not officially divorced. I think the feeling you have is that you believe what marriage is to be and you hold it in high regard. Its people like you that tell me that people still value what marriage is to be even when they are separated on their way to divorce. Do what is in your heart.