Its too easy, too acceptable, its almost expected nowadays! Thats why I will NEVER get married again

Yes, I whole heartedly agree.

absolutely agree...vows have become a joke to me now...everyone wants instant gratification.

yes and no one seems to care about anyone but themself

Divorce is easy so that people in abusive situations can get out. Wedding vows should be a personal pledge and not a legal prison. The fact that people are not honoring their personal pledges is a reflection on our society. When you put in a mechanism to allow freedom (the ability to get a divorce when needed) there are always those who will abuse it. But taking away personal freedom rarely solves the problem. I feel your pain. My ex did not honor his vows, either. But I do not think it is the system that needs to be changed. It is the sense of personal responsibility in each individual that needs to be re-enforced in our society.

I believe that society in general has created the easy way out however I must say that I really feel that some where in the world is a soul mate waiting to be discovered. The sad thing is that there are very happy people in the world but I guess I've just chosen the wrong person and didn't realize it until it was too late.
I think the problem is that we move too quickly into getting married without maturing together instead of taking our times before the vows and making sure it's the right fit.
Sorry if this goes against what most people are feeling as I'm also going through the hurt of separation but I hope there will be a silver lining in years from now.
Always an optimist!

Absolutely, I, too, will never marry again. I thought it was truly for life "during good times and bad"....just, take a moment and consider past the hurt, do you really want a marriage that only you are fighting for?

It's a throw away society that we live in. Some states now have what is called a Covenant marriage and it's twice as hard to get a divorce. You can get a covenant marriage here in Az.

It does me so good to see this posted. Thank you. I am still trying to get over that part, I have let him go but I am having a time letting go of my marriage, I know they should be the same but in my mind right now they are not. I stood in front of family, friends and God blessing my marriage. I said if we ever got to the point we wanted out we would do counseling, that was another promise he made. I want to say I will never get married again, but the fact is I wanted this, I wanted to be married to this man that I thought loved me and wanted to spend the rest of his life with me. I wanted his family to be mine and his kids to love me as I did them. I wanted to be this little old couple that still gazed into each other eyes and held hands. Why should I give up all those dreams just because he broke my heart and in the long run it will be him that suffers? Sorry having a hard time of it today.