Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
Last night my STBX and I finally had "the talk" with our kids. We have been separated for nearly 18 months and our young children have been fine so far. But their reaction to the "D" word was so much worse than I expected. The kids were devastated. My heart is crushed. I feel like I just took away their childhood because of our selfishness. I cannot explain the guilt I feel this morning. I wanted to badly to say the words -- OK we won't.
They don't care that we are not in love and that a huge piece of our relationship is missing. That we tried for years to solve our issues but couldn't. They just care about the family unit and it is now divided. We did all the things the experts tell you to do -- tell them together, assure them it's not their fault, that we'll always be a family but just in two houses now, etc. I've never seen them so crushed.
Someone please tell me it gets better.
They don't care that we are not in love and that a huge piece of our relationship is missing. That we tried for years to solve our issues but couldn't. They just care about the family unit and it is now divided. We did all the things the experts tell you to do -- tell them together, assure them it's not their fault, that we'll always be a family but just in two houses now, etc. I've never seen them so crushed.
Someone please tell me it gets better.
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I have been here before, a long long time ago and now I am back.Forgive me for not just saying what I want to say,even under a triple dose of antidepressants it is still raw and seeping and I am hesitant at revealing it as at least under the bandages around my heart I don,t have to look at how raw and wounded.My child was cleaved from my heart by his own actions. my child of ten,turning eleven...
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
My parents gave me the "D" conversation when I was young and I had the same reaction your children did.
The ended up staying together and they are MISERABLE!!! If the two of you can come to terms without the divorce getting ugly your kids will be fine.
They are in shock but it wears off.