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Today is my anniversary and I am so sad...

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I just need some encouragement from some people who have been through this. Everyone keeps telling me it will get better with time, and while I know that in my head, my heart is not there yet. My husband moved out 5 weeks ago and less than 24 hours after telling me he wanted a divorce, he was in an apartment with someone who was supposed to be a good friend of mine. I am still in shock. He never said he was unhappy or missing anything; this really came out of the blue. I thought we were really happy. We were planning a big family cruise for June to celebrate his 40th birthday and our 10th wedding anniversary. I just got done looking at our wedding album, which was probably not a good idea, but oh well.... I had the papers served to him today -- that was my anniversary present to him. Today has just been really rough and if anyone can just give me some support and encouragement right now, I would really appreciate it...
Thanks,
Jen
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Sent a hug your way. Hope you are OK.
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Jen, I am SO sorry that you are going through this. I know this is a VERY difficult time for you & I know what you're going through. Just know, there IS light at the end of the tunnel. You may not think so right now, but there is. "Keep Your Chin Up!~!" Take it one minute, hour, step or day at a time. Even if it's TEENY, TINY baby steps, it's a step forward!~! "You're In My Prayers!~!" If you need to talk, I'm here
LarryLDN
LarryLDN
we're all in similar boats, put on your seatbelt and lifejacket
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I am so sorry for all of your pain. (((hugs)))
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wow!! your ex sounds like a real piece of work. no regard whatsoever for your feelings after 17 years ? amazing. i wouldn't be suprised if he tries to come back to you in the future,but dont give in. stay strong, keep your head up and remember you are the better person.
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My heart goes out to you. I can feel your pain and understand what you are going through. Men have this unusual ability to do things so fast, that it can make us spin. Your situation is not unusual, and you are not alone in what you have gone through. I was with my husband for 7 years, and without warning, he moved out, filed for divorce, bought his own house,changed jobs and made new friends, and dated other women. After 7 years, I no longer exist as far as he is concerned. It has been 15 months, and i'm still confused about the speed of his actions. In a way, I envy his ability to be able to completely block the past,move on, and make a new life. I still haven't been able to do that. I am going to counselling to try and come to grips with what happened, and to try and shed the guilt I feel. I suggest that might be an option to consider.
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I'm sorry you're hurting, hon. I sooo know where you're coming from. Mine's birthday is in 4 days and my anniversary is coming up in a month. We'll be ok, I promise.
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Wow, thanks to all of you so much! How great to get support like this so instantly, it really helps. I have been having a hard time with my friends and family. Don't get me wrong -- they have all been AMAZING, but I know they're worried, so I'm trying to put on the brave face for them. So nice not to have to do that with you guys, and to share with people who can really understand where I'm at...
Thank you!!!!
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Hi Jen,

I know how much it hurts when someone you love is interested in someone you know.

You will get through this and 5 years from now you will tell yourself that is one of the best things to have happened to you.

I'm so sorry for your pain. Hang in there. Things do get better.

teadrinker, aka Alexandria57&58
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I think you need to treat yourself tomorrow for being so strong and brave today. I would suggest a pedicure and a bouquet of flowers. It cheers me up every time. Hugs to you.
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I am so sorry. So many of us seem to have split up so close to an anniversary...It just seems so odd, and so painful.

Keep putting one foot in front of the other and you will get through this.
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i feel for you Jen, my anniversary is oct 29 2 yrs and it hurts so bad. i tried so hard to make it work, i loved him and he accused me of cheating on him, he cheated on me many times.
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