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Throwing In the Towel

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After 8 years together, 5 of marriage, I am ready to throw in the towel. I am tired of us hurting each other. We go through a cyclical state of hurt, make up sex, and back around the mullberry bush again! I love him, not in-love with him though, and really want him to show everyone that he doesn't need me in his life to be successful. He wants to hold on to something I feel is dead, but who knows. I hate feeling this way, but I must understand that in order for both of us to heal, we must focus on self without the interuption of seeing the one you feel is the vein of the pain. I asked him to leave, offered him money, and he took it! Not much convincing huh?
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Maybe you can answer this question then. What is with
i love you but am not in love with you. I just don't get it anymore. Please think hard about what you are about to do. This is going to impact your both of your lives. There was something that broght you both together trya nd get it back. If it can not be saved please both of you do not do or say anything that will burn your bridge behind you. Remeber you may need to cross it again. Anyway good luck to both of you.
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Falling in love is easy, keeping love going is always going to be work!
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I did any and everything for this man! What woman do you know that would tell a man he doesn't have to work if he would focus on his studies she would handle it all? Pay for all his bills, car and the like. I didn't begin to complain until I didn't feel valued for the work I WAS putting in. I gave ALL of myself for years. Recently I became like Bigfella and realized how important I AM TO MYSELF. Falling out of love came thru hurt and pain for me. I won't allow myself to be in love with him again because the stab wounds have been twisted over and over and have left gaping, festering wounds.
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girl. let him go if you are not in love with him. my STBXWNSTD told me that he hasn't loved me for 2 years. how i wish he would have let me go then, instead of sticking with me and cheating on me. he is not in love with me anymore. i will survive. you are doing the right thing by being forthright and honest. he will appreciate it in the end. :)
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oh, and p.s. i forgot to tell you that I WAS THE ONE to put him through school at USC! he has taken the responsiblity of paying those back in the divorce as he would have to pay spousal maintenance if he didn't!
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