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I would like to start something on a daily basis that is related to a quote from some individual. This individual could be from the past or one of the present. Hopefully, the quote, and any subsequent thoughts, will, in some aspect, provide enlightenment or encouragement for one person requiring hope for the day.
Today's thought may be one of complete turmoil to struggle with for those who may have given their all in a relationship and feel that they were not reciprocated.
The quote is from Anthony DeMello:
"I am not really attached to you at all. I am merely deluding myself into the belief that without you I will not be happy."
"I leave you free to be yourself: to think your thoughts, indulge your tastes, follow your inclinations, behave in ways that decide are to your liking."
My thoughts...Begin to take delight in nonattachment. Be a person who can say to themselves...my attached love for my spouse created despair because I placed my happiness on them. Take delight in yourself and when the next one comes along, and they will, you will be unattached and willing to see the freedom of love without connection. This is not to say you do not feel the emotion of love; it is leaving the attachment for the person behind and letting yourself become involved in love as you would percieve a beautiful sunset or listening to your favorite song.
Today's thought may be one of complete turmoil to struggle with for those who may have given their all in a relationship and feel that they were not reciprocated.
The quote is from Anthony DeMello:
"I am not really attached to you at all. I am merely deluding myself into the belief that without you I will not be happy."
"I leave you free to be yourself: to think your thoughts, indulge your tastes, follow your inclinations, behave in ways that decide are to your liking."
My thoughts...Begin to take delight in nonattachment. Be a person who can say to themselves...my attached love for my spouse created despair because I placed my happiness on them. Take delight in yourself and when the next one comes along, and they will, you will be unattached and willing to see the freedom of love without connection. This is not to say you do not feel the emotion of love; it is leaving the attachment for the person behind and letting yourself become involved in love as you would percieve a beautiful sunset or listening to your favorite song.
solongbye
I like your idea, I look forward to reading these.
deleted_user
Beautiful, Glenn...great idea!
deleted_user
Lovely quote. I will look forward to more.
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