I am sorry for what you are going through. I wonder that samething. It is hard when you give your heart to someone and they don't treasure it but break it into little pieces.

Yes, I feel that my heart has been shattered. It has been emotionally and physically draining.

Unfortunately time is the only thing that will help and it doesn't rush for anyone! The thoughts will go away but not when you want them to. It happens in its own time!

You need to give it time. You will go from angry to sad and back all over again. The emotional rollercoaster. Try to concentrate on yourself and not her. It may help. I hope you have gotten yourself situated in your new place.

rodd, you have moved out of anger into sadness, your going through the process of grief. and i know the feeling, ex is constantly in my head, that is the part where i'm at, if i could just get him out of there, i'd be moving on full steam ahead. don't let thoughts of her being with someone else in there, done that too, it's the worst. your going to be ok. your with people who know exactly how you feel and what your going through. we are gonna make it.

There are so many emotions what will be experienced. For me it is not a straight line progression, I bounce back and forth from feeling to feeling.

While I agree "Time" is important, it is also important what we do with that time. DS has helped me, as has reading various books, Therapy and prayer.

I wish the very best in life to you.

Rodd, it is the hardest thing for all of us to deal with, but deal with it we must. There is promise for those who are bold and strong so stay strong. Keep trying to change those thoughts the best that you can. When our mind has a strong moment it tells us that it is time to move on, then the heart steps in and reminds you of the lost love and takes over, the rollor coaster. The mind versus the heart. back and forth. How do you fight against the emotions? they have a mind of there own, no right no wrong they are what they are. Stay strong in your mind do what you can to chase those thoughts that we hold onto so dearly. They are from the past, try to keep them there. Good lucj my friend.