you mean like people talking about mixed drinks, wines and beers on an AA site?

Yes, sort of. We have people, good people leaving because of how the talk is going. I don't care what any of you talk about but take it private.

I see your point sld1, but I would hope that new people would read more than 1 thread before making a firm judgement. There are many thread topics per page and would think, as I did my first time, look at ones that speak to them personally.

These kinds of conversations and lighthearted, though sometimes inappropriate, topics are found on just about every board.

Well, I can agree with you somewhat. One or thw threads are ok. It does get a little old seeing 5-6 threads about sex. But, I just ignore it. *shrug*

Alternatively, a person could just skip the posts talking about sex, and start their own thread discussing their issues and heartbreak so that we can offer our support. We do (most of us) have the capacity to switch from one kind of topic to another, or ignore topics that don't interest us. People going through divorce also have issues opening up and being intimate with people, and having friends on DS that you can be comfortable expressing any and all of your feelings with, while remaining comfortably remote, is just another aspect of dealing with the loss of a stbx without getting drunk and taking off your clothes in a biker bar. Chill out and ignore.

And the sex topics are NOT the only reason people are leaving this board.

Yes, it's sad that there are some people driven away by the activities here, I almost became one of them. I did however, come to realize that it was best to avoid what upset me and to seek support in a manner that works for me, by picking and choosing the threads I read, respond to and the people who showed themselves to be true friends.

I relate back to an earlier thread that I posted on. Sex is part of this group because it probably has some part of our break ups and divorce.

Oh hell, maybe I am wrong. Maybe we should ONLY talk about break-ups and divorce. And then we shouldn't have any happy or funny thoughts. God forbid that we have anything but Doom and Gloom on here. People recovering from divorce and break-ups don't need to have fun or see positive topics, not at all. All we should DISCUSS is how sad we are and how we will never recover from this horrible situation.

If you don't want to see off topic posts or the sex posts....don't open the bloody thread.

i do believe theres a whole forum about sex....its probably where the topic belongs...

Personally, I don't have a problem w/ the sex threads....They can be be a fun outlet. What saddens me is that many desperate cries for help/support are pushed aside or die after 7 or 8 responses. I guess we all need to remember the times when a simple "hug" from a total stranger was enough to talk us off the ledge.

Many of you are taking this wrong. I came here about 1 year ago. I'm much older than most of you so I looked a little. I found the divorce after 20 years site which was people my own age. I'm in my 50's. I have children many of your ages. Maybe your kids of your age need the jokes and sex talk right away. That's fine for you. Not everyone feels that way. Some people (and I think most of us at one point) need help. I want to make sure that is given. I needed it so much at the beginning. I'll bet most of you did too.

The sex talks I think are just a light hearted alternative to the angst alot of people are feeling... plus it is a reminder that there is life ater a divorce, there are smiles and laughter.. I dont reply to them but I do read them and giggle!.. A few of us here are pretty much beyond the pain of the initial shock and awe of the whole thing but continue to come to check the progress of the friends that we made.. and try to help those new to the hell that is divorce by letting them know life, can and does go on.. sometimes even better than the actual relationship you're mourning was...

mixed in with the sex threads are very helpful threads as well.. its just a matter of ignoring the ones you may find offensive or not want to read/respond too..

The only issue I have, we must all remember not everyone on this site is 18.. some are teenagers mourning the break up of a first love, i think i even read a post once, that was posted by a 13 yr old.. so we should try to keep that in mind.. and what would we want our teenage daughter/son reading on a therapeutic support site..

I thought that you had to be 18 to be on here. I also think that parents need to monitor where their kids visit and if they end up on sites that may have adult discussions then they should keep them from going on there.

I believe people coming here are FREE to express themselves just like YOU ARE.

As much as I respect your ways of expressing yourself, PLEASE RESPECT MINE.

You can post religious posts and I don't like them, but I value too much FREEDOM OF SPEECH, to tell anyone HOW THEY SHOULD EXPRESS THEMSELVES!!!

You want to offer religious support, you can do just that or create your own rekligious support group. I do not agree with YOUR IDEA OF SUPPORT. I have my own, thanks.

Many people here come tired of religious bullcrap, which tels they should never divorce and they endure physical and emotional abuse in the name of a religious belief. The site is for all. So respect others beliefs and means of expression are just as important as yours!

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I didn't see a single mention of religion in Sld's post. But that was the majority of your post, Slac.

Methinks you protest too much.

well said Czarna ,.... it is a part of our lives and the grieving process.