Have you examined all possible avenues for getting assistance? Would you be able to qualify for other types of assistance if you were on your own? Do you have some type of case aid worker who can help research things for you?

I felt the same way as you for the past 2 years, though I loved my husband and was not dependent on him...he just started living a life without me because of our rows and I kept trying to get it to work but couldnt. Several times he got to the point he was going to leave then I begged him to stay. Finally I couldnt take it anymore after he had been out 8 days in a row, so I forced his hand and told him to post the forms which would lead to me taking over responsibility for the house. He posted them. Then he was still living here while the house was transferred into my name and I got so worked up about when he might leave that I told him to go...and he did. 5 weeks have gone by and I wish I had never asked him to post those forms..or to leave because I would have tried harder. I miss him and it is worse than death. If you have feelings for your husband dont go yet...but if you do not, dont live a life like that, it gets worse and you can never really start living yours. Since mine went I have been out more, had friends round, started cooking...forcing myself to live.

I am at the highest level I qualify for, but it is not much at any rate.

Oh Sweetie, I feel you! I have applied for disability in June. Still in process. My STBX has been horrible and controlling to me for the last 3 to 5 years. No realtionship whatsoever, emotinal, sexual or otherwise. I also stayed with him only because I had been a stay at home mom for 7 years and was unable to work, had no money to speak of due to him keeping me off all his bank accts, and giving me a grocery allowance (I know sick..).
HOWEVER...On August 1st this year I moved out and took our daughter with me. I took a cash advance on the one credit card I could, and borrowed a little from my dad, that got me through about 3 months. He turned this divorce into a long drawn out nightmare. I am broke, but I am managing by what tiny bit of money he is giving me and my dad somewhat still in small amts. Which I wlll pay him after the divorce settlement.
Even though I am going without, I STILL FEEL 100% better for leaving that relationship which caused me so much pain. I couldn't stand the sight of him one more second..I had to leave. Eventually, the divorce will be over, I'll get half his 401K, money to sign off on our house as well as child support ands spousal support. FYI..If you have a credit card with available cash advance, they have a program where you can go 4 months without paying, pay one month's payment, then go another 4 mos with having to make a payment. Also the cash advances are give at a much lower interest rate than the credit card itself. They consider divorce issues and try to help. A bank may do the same if you chck into it. No one should ever have to be stuck with someone because of finances. Hope this helps.