i remember a beautiful balmy night, we walked out onto a fishing pier. he put his arms up on my shoulders, hugged me and told me he loved me. i am starting to get to a point, where i can smile at the good memories and not let the bad ones drag me down.

A favorite memory of mine was when my husband was graduating Basic Training. The crying and hugging we did after not seeing each other for 6 weeks. The fun we had that weekend, and the tears we shed that Sunday before he left for Tech School because we were so in love and we missed each other already. This all happened on our 8th-9th year of marriage only 4 years ago. I was so proud of him that weekend.

memories are yours and yours alone.....and they are just that.....memories. you have found a new life and with that new memories will form. never feel guilty about your fond memories. cherish those that are now forming :)

we were living in Florida, out girl was 5, in Kindergarden and I was in collage and he had his own carpentry company...A big hurrican swell came in with no wind - just big waves. I took off school, he took off work - something we never do - and literly surfed for about 6 hours striaght, the whole time our girl was in school. We would kiss between sets, cheer each other on each wave - just had a blast...breaks my heart to think about it now.

My favorite memories are of Christmas with my husband, we had a beautiful house and I always decorated elaborately. This is our first Christmas apart. i am not decorating this year where I'm living, don't have the spirit to. Hubby and I are talking though, and are thinking of trying it again. Only thing is, he is 3000 miles away and we are both considering of re-locating in the middle somewhere.

We rented a 24-foot RV and drove the Magruder Trail between ID and MT one summer vacation. It's 125 miles of one-lane gravel road through the mountains. Not something you should drive in a 24-foot RV (who knew?!). At the very start, though, is a beautiful meadow. While we were standing there trying to decide if we should just stop and camp there overnight, two wolves crossed the meadow. We were both in awe and thrilled to see them. We were also thrilled our dog didn't notice them! It was a great trip. The last time we rented an RV and the last trip with our first dog.

When I read this discussion post I instantly teared up. Sometimes we let ourselves think of only the bad times and the good times seem to get pushed down, but eventually it is time to return to them, to not look at them like it was a waste being with the man or woman that we once loved. I remember many, many times of happiness, many times that I would do over and over again and if you asked me today if I would do this all over, I think I would say yes because I have never loved anyone as I have loved my husband. He spent an entire year saving up scrap metal from work to purchase my engagement ring, it was only about 2,000 dollars, but he paid in cash. He planned a trip to Europe for us and we had one night in Paris, as we approached the Eifel tower it was late and the guard wouldn't let us go up and my husband nearly cried, I couldn't imagine why, I told him it didn't matter, I was there with him, but he wouldn't have it any other way he begged with the guard, offered him money and finally by the grace of God he let us on, the last people of the night. As we were gazing out at the lights, he proposed to me, it took my breath away, it was a dream to me, it was the beginning of a beautiful marriage. That marriage took a wrong turn, but I will always have those memories, memories that he will never have with his new gf, they are mine to keep. she may have taken everything else away from me, but those memories will last a lifetime. He called me bugs and everyone would laugh, but it was short for love bug, silly, but that will always be mine and his. I will never hate my husband, I will always hold him in my heart, and I will always take the time to remember a good time because if I don't I will be an angry person forever and I don't want to be angry. Thank you LSU for reminding me of a positive in my world of negatives.

we were living in Northern Canada ( far north), it was a beautiful clear night very cold -30 c, he took me to fly over the City. The Northern Lights were out...it was an amazing night..

I am glad we can share our memories. Makes me feel good to know I am not the only one.

Wow.. And yet again, reminding just how jacked my lack of a relationship was. Yea there were times when I relaxed I guess, but for the most part. I was never at ease in the relationship. I was never happy, I read this, and have been trying to add a memory of my own, but the truth is, there isnt one where I felt completely whole or satisfied or content. I even remember feeling uncomfortable on my honeymoon. I was a moron. Cant blame someone for not knowing any better right....
Honey, thanks for educating me on the ways of a healthy relationship. You have no idea just how much you have done for me. I Love You.

It's hard to think of the good memories now because they hurt so much and there were so many of them. One of my favorites would be when we would spend a rainy day with blankets and pillows on the floor watching movies and lovin' on each other. Good days, good memories, makes me sad.