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If you are going alone, then it will only be about you and your relationships with other people. It won't be about other people's problems or how to fix those people.

So it feels like it may be about facing your own problems and it's true. It can seem a bit frustrating because it goes so slow. But what can you expect after several one hour sessions.

I'd look for somebody that is going to "coach" you in how to set and achieve your goals. Somebody that is going to help you to deal with people that aren't compatible and be able to identify them.

I have always found it helpful. A good therapist can help you sort through your feelings - that can be the painful part because so many of us bury our feelings. Therapy is sort of like peeling away the layers of an onion. You pry one layer off and then there is another layer, that you didn't even know was there. While hard, at times, it is a great way to get at the root of your issues.

When you go in the therapist will ask you why you are there. They may ask you what is your goal of therapy. They will ask lots of questions initially. Some sessions are wonderful, some are okay, some are hard. You will probably to the point when you feel you aren't benefiting
from it as much and that's usually a sign
that you are ready to quit. I would give it at least 3-4 sessions to see if it is helping you. Good luck.

Yes it is kinda like organizing your junk drawer. You spill it all and they help you focus on the stuff you need to work on now and prioritize the rest.

But if you dont get a good feeling after two sessions with your cousellor- find another. When my son was diagnosed with a terminal illness ( he was subsequently cured in a medical first) I went through 7 counsellors before i found an amazing one.. so don't feel too bad if you need to fire one or two of them first...before you find an amazing one for you.

My husband and I have been to couple couselling for over a year and I hated it at first as I am quite a private, proud person and was not used to saying how I feel, especially to a stranger. I stuck to it as I really wanted the help for our relationship and learnt so much both about myself and about our relationship. It does not seem like it has helped with the marriage, but this is not because counselling does not work...I hope you will find a good therapist and the help you may need. Good luck

I have been going for 9 months, it is hard and you have to find the right one. I changed after 6 months which was very hard to go through the whole story again. I can't wait to go every week. She makes me feel like I am worth something. I love her.

If you are talking about marriage counseling, I hated it. We went in every week sort of ok and always came out hating each other. I think he made our problems worse and no, it didn't help.

You have to know that all therapists aren't good ones. You can switch to another one if you just don't "feel" it. My husband and I seperated 7m ago and the first one did more harm then good. We found a Family Psychologist and went a couple times together and I go weekly. It has changed my life. It is a very slow process and can be incredibly painful, but I was in tremendous emotional pain and didn't want to see my part in our seperation. My therapist kept telling me to lose control. I have always been in control of everything and he told me that to have real control I had to give up control. For months I truly had no idea what he was talking about. Then one day I just did it and he was right. I control my life more, now that I am not in control. Sounds crazy. He also made me realize that while my ex put everything on to me, it wasn't me. As a matter of fact my ex now wants us to try and work it out and I haven't decided what I want to do. Probably way more info then you were asking for...