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The unwanted returns

deleted_user
deleted_user
Hello.. I've come back. why? because I acknowledge that really need help before I do more harm to myself or worse. But before you even start, No I have not gotten "professional" help. I can't. I don't have the money..

But I digress, I didn't come here to rant on. I came to do two things.
first, to let you all know that I have not yet killed myself.. (for whoever cares)

and second, I wanted to ask if post made on this community go out to others?

I guess there's no room for a brake up in the "Divorce and brake up"
community so I was going to leave for the Teen one..

..even though I'm 20

I'm sorry for being so cruel.. I just am going threw a lot.. more so now then ever.. and it pissed me off so bad to get "tough love" *scoff*

I'm not trying to be a jerk.. just sick of being stepped on when I need some one to pick me up.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I am glad you are back. I don't know how much help I can be, but I am always here to listen and give the benefit of my experience and my mistakes

I can tell you are going through a lot, and don't worry about sounding cruel. It's part of the stuff you have to go through to get to the other side. We have all been there.

Try writing in your journal. It will help you even if you don't realize it as you are writing. It will also help others to understand and offer help.

I'm here for you and there are many others that will come to your side when you reach out because they have been hurt too.

Hang in there.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Why don't you try telling us what's wrong? I don't know you so the fact that your back doesn't help me know you. You are so angry and seem so full of hurt. It's kind of obvious that you're not going through a break up of your marriage....so what are you going through? What do you need from us?
CanadianRose
CanadianRose
We are here for you, to listen to you and to support you.

Please feel free to be here.
deleted_user
deleted_user
hold on and relax..you're still so young..just let it pass by and things will get better, just try to relax right now and try to feel peaceful and just let it be for awhile
deleted_user
deleted_user
I am not sure what's going on. This is for BREAKUPS and divorce. Losing love is painful whether you were married or not.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Why do you call yourself "unwanted", because he/che didn't want you or because you felt unwanted here???
deleted_user
deleted_user
I feel unwanted here.. I was even asked to stop whining or leave.. after I poured out my soul in two to three posts.

I'm sorry for lashing out. I just ..
I really don't know how to say it..
I didn't mean to offend anyone..
CanadianRose
CanadianRose
Well keep talking and we will listen.

and yes, I agree with Alex.. one does not need to be married to suffer a break up.

I also sent you a message..and yes..it hurts just as much at 20 as it does at 46 ... deep wounds and hurt.

so.. yes.. this is a good place to talk.
deleted_user
deleted_user
To be honest the original thread(s) read like science fiction.

This seems a little more real, which is a good start.

the ladies here will be a good resource if you open up to them. just be yourself and be honest.
deleted_user
deleted_user
well i'm sorry that someone did not have enough sympathy or empathy to know you were hurting and not whining. again i'm sorry you were asked to leave, that should never happen to anyone here, who is here for the right reasons. and you set the right boundry, don't allow anyone to step on you. and i'll be happy at any time to try my best to lift you up when you need it, so many others here have done that for me, many times. welcome back, i'm glad you did not physically hurt yourself. and please ask around here and let people know where your from, in case someone knows of free counseling or help for you.
deleted_user
deleted_user
there should be resources available at min. or no cost. perhaps look into your local college or university psych programs where they offer support via graduate, experienced students to help you, and most are at a min. or free cost. also, know that being 20, you have a life to live. I was stepped on when I was 21, and at one point, very low, but wasn't going to ever let another person get the best of me. you have to remember thinking these thoughts your empowering another person to have control over your emotions and your self. you are in control of you and no one else. you will have a great life, and this pain you feel will subside. also, based on where you're at in your breakup, you can go to a local book store/library and read everything you can about personal healing and moving on, etc. time will help you.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I agree with Tup. Be the real you and be open with us and honest...no science fiction. I don't know what brought you back here but I'm glad you're back.. Let us help you. Tell us what's wrong. Maybe we can help maybe we can't but what we can do is give you 100+ shoulders to lean on. We are family here; one big family brought together by disfunction...you'll find more than your fair share of mothers, fathers, sisters and brothers here. I personally am a straight forward person but I believe you are a person who can handle the truth.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I'm sorry.. I didn't mean to seem so fake before. I just.. wrote what came to me. I did it as it flowed.. it was full of inside metaphors that I was to hurt to relies at the time that no one would understand them.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Ok, again Dear, what's wrong? If you don't tell us, I hope you trust us enough to come to us when something is on your mind.
deleted_user
deleted_user
The long, and short of it is my world is falling out from under me. The Girl I loved with all my heart dumped me, after spouting lines like " always and forever" I've done every self destructive habit that I can think of because of this. and now I am going to leave everyone I know to move 200 miles away. and live alone
add that to a dysfunctional family, and childhood that I won't even get into right now. and the crushing loneliness before I even leave.. I'm sorry, I'm ranting. but I don't know how to say it.
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