My husband and I have been having marital problems for a couple of years now. He says he does not feel loved by me and I love him SOOOO much. I am always trying to do things to please him. But he says that the attention that he gets from his friend (a female) is why he clings on to her and hangs out with her and not me. Recently my husband has moved out and is staying with one of his male friendsbut our kids (3 little girls) miss him and wants him home. He has now started to stay home and when I asked the reason he says that the kids wanting him there is the biggest reason that he is now starting to sleep at home. He does not act like he wants to be around me.he goes by the neighbor and spends time over there. When he comes homehe stays downstairs and watches TV until he falls asleep. I feel like he has no desire to want to spend time with me to rebuild our marriage. He told me that he sometimes crave attentionand when I try to give him this attention because I want to meet his needshe says I am smothering him and that he needs time to breathe. He says that he does not need someone who is up under him all the time. The thing is I want to be around him.I want to watch TV with him, laugh with him, hang out when we can. But if we do anything togetherits initiated by me. If I want to lie down with himits done through my actions. He never responds to me in anyway to show that he wants me. I know we are going through some hard times but I still love him and want to be with himwhy doesnt he act/feel the same way I do? Then I looked at The Secret on Oprah and it said that if you stop focusing on the wrong that is going on in life and instead focus on the things you desire, like a happy marriage..you will achieve it. My question is, if my spouse does not act like he has a desire to be with me and is very unhappy with mehow can I focus on desiring a happy marriage if he is the one not sure if he wants to be here and is not in a place to want to do anything about it. He just want his life to be as is.for him to do what he wants (talk to whoever he feels like, go out whenever he wants, come home when he feels like or not come home if he does not want.) He said he wants things to happen naturally. He is not forcing anything. He said I want an easy fix.but Im just ready to move forward. I love my husbandI want to be happy and I want my family back together but I cant do it by myself. How do I use The Secret to my advantage and take me out of this rut? What do I do if we are not on the same page?
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