I really don't have an answer to this. It seems like divorce is so very common now. It is something I guess I will find out about, but if someone is that judgemental about things I doubt I would want to be with them anyway.

No, no stigma. I believe the current percentage of divorced people is well over 50%, which puts you in the majority. There can't be stigma's attached unless over 50% of the population agrees to it. I don't think that is going to happen

I don''t think it should, but in some cases it should definitely be something that is considered.

My STBX had been married once before and her first marriage lasted only two years before she cheated on her husband. Well, guess what? Our marriage lasted two years before she cheated on me as well. If there are red flags, signs, that give you a clue as to why the first marriage ended theres probably a good chance that person will repeat those same mistakes.

I was too in love to care about her past divorce, but I know better now.

I don't know about a stigma, but I did make the comment to my attorney when I signed the final paperwork that I was now a statistic.

I think is all your own perception and how you feel about it. I agree with Lovesuks and if the next person you are with has issues with you being divorced that may be a red flag.

I have been divorced twice. After my first divorce I had no problem dating and no one held it against me. Divorce is a fact of life and is more common than not, sorry to say. You have to keep in mind that who you date will more than likely be divorced also. With your wife being a widow she may not fully understand that divorces happen no matter how hard you try. Like before my first divorce I always though that people getting a divorce arent trying enough. She may also have gotten you on a rebound type of deal to where she thought you were similar to her husband. If she is true to herself she will get past it, and you both will grow and move on I think. Welcome to divorce world. There are many of us out here.

Having been active in the dating world awhile, I would say this should not be a concern to you. Now, it you have been married 5 times and are only 40, that is a differant story...Once or twice, hey we all make mistakes, 4 or 5, there are some major issues and I would run like hell.

Just my opinion of course!

Good luck!

I agree with you lovesuks. My ex-fiance had already been in two serious relationships since her husband passed away and they both ended similarly to mine. Yet, I looked past the red flags because I was also "too in love." A few months after she broke it off, I recently ran into her profile on a popular dating site and I'm sure history will be repeated.
Thanks for your comments everyone.

Ok, here's the stigma where I live, if you're a divorced woman, around my age, and seen out at a nightclub, you're called a "cougar". I was always happy in the knowledge that when I walked around the dancefloor I was not one of "them" poor women, sitting there week after week just waiting to be hit on by someone, because I was married. Now I find single!! Last Saturday, because it was a really bad day after finding out he was sleeping with the new woman in his life, I thought, damn it, I'm going out tonight to have some fun, I went to the nightclub, had one drink, downed it in two gulps and got the hell out of there. I could see the woman staring at me, invading THEIR territory, and the guys eyeing the FRESH MEAT. That's NOT who I am. The stigma of the divorced woman trying to find fun, and perhaps a partner, by going to the nightclub scene is REAL! I love to dance..how the hell am I supposed to get out now without being considered "one of them"?