So sorry - the roller coaster ride still has ups and downs. Hope you feel better soon.

It's just something that we have to deal with. One of those "why???" situations. I hope you feel better soon.

awwwww sweetie, I hate to tell you this, but that sadness is gonna continue to come and go. Just part of the process. The longer one is/was married, the longer it takes to heal. It's been 3 1/2 years since I moved out and a year in Jan since the D was final. I still get sad, but it's getting better. Part of the sadness is for what you didn't have, what you wished you had. So many different emotions to work thru. I hate the old saying that time heals, and am not sure it does (b/c I'm not there yet by any means) but time does lessen the pain, it really does.

((((hugs))))

When I was feeling that roller coaster....ugh. But what I discovered what it was......not that I missed her so much but I missed the companionship of another person that cared for me. Not particularly her but just "someone" ya know. That may not be your problem, but it was mine. And in my time of healing I learned alot about myself. And the crying...it always sorta felt good to cry it out....I felt it was like my sadness leaving me....and then I was told its normal...and part of the healing...and to not stop it from happening when it did....that made me feel better. I havent cried in a while now...(knocks on wood) Happy Halloween ((hugs))

It takes a while to get over the hurt they caused us. Its different for everyone, and the memories you have, good and bad will last for a while. It does get better though.

some states you can post an ad in the paper, if he doesn't respond to whatever the limit of time is, you can be granted a divorce with or without him. as far as his stuff you can also put to a storage facility and he has to pay to get out in some cases.

its not the first and will not be the last....i promise you it gets better everytime. Going through the motions of a separation is very hard--but you need to accept it and move on. YES it does hurt - but you cant change anything. Keep busy and just thank God for what happen! It could have been worse.

i have cried for most of the day today....hell, most of this week...this month...

unlike you, i still love my ex. or at least, i think i still do. i don't know anymore.

but i think, and from what i've read & been told, this will pass at some point. maybe we will always miss what could have been, should have been. wanted what was, but really wasn't. i wish i had a better answer. i don't.

but when you get one, will you let me know???

Someone recently told me that I'll grieve for the loss of my marriage 1/2 the time I was married. Im not to thrilled about being miserable for 7 1/2 years.
Remember that it is ok to feel bad and be sorrowful for the loss of the relationship, but also remember that you are under no obligation to let sorrow be the only emotion you feel. Happiness is most certainly allowed!!!

how are you feeling?

Anne, it's really simple. Whether or not you loved him, he was your life. You aren't just letting go of your husband, you're letting go of a lifestyle. You are probably grievin your life, not him. Don't beat yourself up too much, give yourself time to heal.

i think its the loss of the future that is worse. its frightening not knowing the new future. then you start thinking clearly and realize it will be better since you are so much wiser and can make such wise decisions.

We hurt. Thats what we do. We finally accept it. Thats what we do too.

I had no choice but to go about my daily business, and then it just sorta goes away.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vZ61su9H5RU&feature=related

I'm in the same position - mid divorce initiated by me. Still I cry and cry. I cry for the hopes of a family unit, for lost father for my youngest who really dislikes his dad, I cry for dreams. Then I try to remind myself that crying releases endorphins and is supposed to work on your emotions in much the same ways as laughter. So till you can laugh more than cry, try to be easier on yourself. And remember that time wounds all heels!