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The holidays:(

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deleted_user
I want to start by saying that in order to get the full version you have to read my journal. Anyway...why the hell should I be away from my kids when he kikced us out for another woman? You want to leave your marriage and kids without even TRYING to work through the issues then why the hell should I spend this holiday season or any other without my kids?!!! You want out so bad then there are consequences that should follow and that do follow sometimes. If he would have tried and it just didn't work for us then I can understand but really this shit! Don't ask me if you and your friend can take them for Thanksgiving!?
deleted_user
deleted_user
don't let him take them. he kicked you all out, he didn't want you then, why now? tell him no.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I have to agree. Probably because I am in the same situation and the wounds are still fresh. I think the one that leaves us... should suffer the consequences.
deleted_user
deleted_user
How old are the kids? You may not have a choice if the kids are old enough to understand what is happening. In fact,they may hold it against you later on. If they are very little, I would make it very difficult for him....hm! how about.."where my kids go, I go"...just a thought.
deleted_user
deleted_user
you dont have to release the kids to the friend if he aint man enough to get them himself they dont go.
it is not the friends responsibility to be the parent.

the court says you cant deny hm visitation even though they may deserve it but the court will back you on not releasing them to a friend instead of him.
if he wants to see them he should be the one to show up.
Che2
Che2
I am with you on this one... Thanksgiving and Christmas day are at Mom's..to the kids that means HOME.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Did this just happen? If so - Wow! I wouldn't let him take the kids for Thanksgiving. If this is recent, he really shouldn't have the kids around her so soon. The kids are going to need time to get used to what is going on. He really should think about their well-being.
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