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The feeling of "Mourning" someone

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This feeling is driving me insane and it's getting to the point where I do not want to even function each day. It puts me in a terrible, foul mood. All I want to do is cry my brains out. I feel asleep crying last night. I may do the same tonight. Heck, why not. All I want to do is stop it. So frustrating.
keepthehope
keepthehope
Unfortunately we all go through it. I wish there was something I could say to take it all away. It took me two months of feeling so hurt until the pain lessen. It still hurts but not as bad. You just have to get through the pain. You will, just hang in there.
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Crying's good.
It's not being numb anymore, but it's not quite anger yet.

Falling alseep after a good cry is great. You're so wiped out you just pass out on the bed.

I know you don't want to be in that state any longer than you have to be, but trust me, you don't want to skip the grieving process. It has a way of coming back to bite you on the butt if you do.
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deleted_user
It is so hard to let go of him and your feeling of loss. Only you can decide when your last tear will fall. The poison must run it's course. The challenge is realizeing that what you had is not what you want anymore. It's knowing that your partner will not change. When you stop being in denial about that then the anger will come. So I say cry, scream, punch and throw things. Get yourself physically and emotionally exhausted. Then get a lipsick and write on your mirror all those nasty traits he has. Then write The TRUTH IS-- He will not change. I hurt because I have temporarily forgotten the Truth. See if that doesn't help. It's done wonders for me!
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deleted_user
It's true. It's part of the grieving process we all have to go through. The good news, if you want to call it that, is with time you will stop the crying & start rebuilding your life. It's not easy, but the people here at DS are all going though a difficult time. We are all in different stages, but we help others where we can. Hang strong. It will get better. It's just hard to believe that right now.
deleted_user
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I felt hopeless for a very long time before the separation and during. Confide in someone close to you. Surround yourself with people to support you, it really helps. There are so many people going through the same thing. Hang in there, it will get better.
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