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LarryLDN
LarryLDN
What's the difference between being alone and involved? One other person. But when you're with another person, you often crave and seek Alone Time.

So now I have ALL the Alone Time I want. LOL

If ONE other person can make us feel Not Alone, then one less person in the mix is really nothing considering there's 6 billion others. Can always find others to be Not Alone with, and so many often Feel Alone even when in a roomful of others.

So what's really the difference? Just Thoughts, no?
deleted_user
deleted_user
It is confusing but I know what you are saying. I very often feel alone. I think we put ourselves into this state because our minds are not with what is around us. It is Just thoughts.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Alone to me is not having someone to share my deep dark secrets and passion with. Not having that person that I've given my love, my support, and yes, even a part of my soul to.
deleted_user
deleted_user
The reason you often "feel alone in a crowded room" is that you don't feel connected emotionally with another human.

sometimes all that is needed is that

a) you wear a smile
b) you start talking to the person next to you
c) you simply observe

if we did not feel alone, and sometimes not loved,, we would not learn to appreciate the good feeling we get when we do feel loved and connected.....
LarryLDN
LarryLDN
good points there. I never feel alone with a lot of people around... invisible, maybe. LOL
deleted_user
deleted_user
Yes I often feel invisible.. I think that invisible feeling comes from the breakup. I never felt that way before . I feel it now alot since I am new to this city and although it has been 10 months now... I still feel alone without alot of social connections.

We often lose friends and acquainteance through divorce.. ugly process.. would not wish it on anyone..

I keep saying the next female who tells me she is going through a divorce.. I am going right out and buy her a vibrator....
LarryLDN
LarryLDN
yeah, meet "BOB". LOL

yep, I didn't just lose a spouse and kids, the entire clan that went with 'em... quite a few hundred people suddenly *poof* =} strangers, overnight
deleted_user
deleted_user
Cherub, better still, give single women the vibrators and tell them they don't have to get married in the first place.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I'm confused..nothing I'm not use to..LOL!
LarryLDN
LarryLDN
what's confusing??
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