There are stages of grief and your body will most likely force you to go through those stages...however it's not healthy to remain in one stage for a long period of time...so just watch that...sounds like you are in a denial stage. Just keep moving forward and things will get better.

I think it is healthy but keeping it going is the struggle. I have found myslef the last couple of days getting a hold of my emotions but then find those short moments I let my guard down that they come back but not as intense. It is hard Alex, days I think I got a control then for it to be gone for just a few minutes or hours. I just need to keep moving forward. It is sink or swim.

I'm certainly no expert, but I would say it is normal and part of the process. We each deal with grief in our own unique way and in our own time frame.

You seem to be aware of the possibility of this turning into denial and that it wouldn't be healthy to do that. At the same time, I think we can only handle so much at a time.

Are you seeing a therapist? It might help to go a few times and share you questions/concerns with a professional.

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I think by even asking the question you show that you are getting better. Look back and remember how you didn't even have to think about the bad things when ths all first happened, they just constantly popped up in your head. Now you are saying what you will think about and when. Sounds like a good step forward.

I have wondered that too. But then when I have to do anything that has to do with the divorce I still fall apart. I want to know if once the divorce is over I will feel more at peace???

I have been told that it is the SARA model that we all move through, some parts quicker than others. Shock, Anger, Resentment, Acceptance. Maybe you are now entering stage four, and surely that is healthy. Are you dwelling on the past or are you imagining your new future?

I was separated 3 1/2 yrs & divorced since Jan. There was no magic date for me. I'm just now truly coming to terms and starting to let go. Of course I could end up taking a giant step backwards and tomorrow be right back where I was. I think it's normal to move back and forth between the stages of grief.

The divorce support groups I attended (divorce care & rebuilding divorce recovery) both said it takes about a year for every 5 or 6 yrs you were married to truly recover. So by then, I should be dead & it won't matter. LOL.

It's a process with steps forward and back. But I think I'm starting to see a slight flicker of light at the tunnel.

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