I've been out of the dating seen for 22 tears and I am curious to know what the rules are for women.

How to act?

Be yourself.

Be comfortable in your own skin. Sure, there's some nervousness envolved, but that's normal.

No, you don't look desparate by asking. Sounds like you're just looking for some reassurance, nothing wrong with that.

ALWAYS BE YOURSELF!!! AND THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH FEELING NERVOUS I HAVE BEEN DIVORCE FOR 5 YRS. MARRIED FOR 22 YRS. AND YES HOW DO YOU START A CONVERSATION? LUCKLY I'M IN A PLACE WHERE I MEET NEW PEOPLE EVERYDAY!!

I must say that I am finding men are only looking for one thing these days....

*sigh*

Have a don't give a crap attitude. I just started approaching woman and found most of the world is screwed up. But saying that I have made a lot of new friends out of it. Just go for it. There is no right or wrong way. Its like riding a bike, get on and it will come back to you.

Ok Stef brought up a good question, what are the rules for guys I mean damn you girls are so hard to talk to.

also its like what hot said, girls think that guys are only looking for one thing. sure alot of them are but I'm sorry but did you stop and ask yourself that just because were guys doesnt mean that we don't want to feel loved either. I mean I hate the sterio type girls that just think guys want sex...ahhh I'm sorry dont mean to be a jerk just seems like the good guys finsh last.

Guys? Hard to talk to?

lol

Most of the time, guys are waiting for a woman to talk to them...in bars at least.

In other social environments, it's not that hard. Small talk goes a long way towards getting to know someone, find out if they're interested in you, and let's not forget it gives you a chance to see if they're missing most of their teeth ;)

Talk about anything. Sports, cars, work, where you are at the moment...anything, doesn't really matter.

What does matter is this:

Confidence always wins.
Be yourself.

But have fun with it :)

Ok, well the last two guys I've went on a date with have wanted sex, so I am only speaking from experience.

I am sooo not ready to go there either. I mean, yes I miss it, but emotionally I'm just not at that point.

So c'mon guys...get your mind outta the gutter. =)

Or perhaps men see a woman going through divorce as an easy target?!?! now this brings up a whole 'nother topic.

Some guys would view a woman who is...shall we say, in an emotionally fragile state as an easy target.

But it goes both ways.

I left a place I used to work because one of my bosses knew I had just broked up with a girl I was dating, and he thought that would be an opportune time to hit on me.

No thanks.

There are quality people out there, they're just hard to find sometimes. And that's the way it should be.

Rule for guys???

Don't expect me to go too fast...

If I'm not worth a little bit of investment, then you aren't for me. One guy I met on line was 'put out' because I wouldn't "put-out" after our second meeting.

And... don't be embarrased if I want to pay for something (a stumbling block for another guy)... Say "Thank you", then next time we can do something in your budget... it's not a competition!!!

See thats where I lake, the whole confidence thing. Yea palms sweet, get nerves, tong tied, then I just stand there. At times I wish the girl would make the first move. Ahhh that would be soooo much easier. That why you dont have to worry about her huge boyfriend coming up to you later that nice wanting to kick your ass. I mean if she comes up to you she must be into you or single or somethingright????

Confidence is a reflection of how you view yourself.

If all else fails, pop in Swingers and watch that scene where they're telling him he's got these claws, and he doesn't know hot to kill the bunny rabbit...WITH THESE CLAWS.

heh

Having a good wingman helps, too.

also I wanted to say sorry to hot I didnt mean to come off like a jerk. Just I'm so tired of being sterio typed ya know. I mean yea I'm single and it sucks...but I mean its not like I don't know how to "beet the eurge" ya know where I'm goin with that one. Anyway sorry.

I never really dated. My husband was my one and only and I'm sure I even know what to do. I don't have anything else to compare too. Ideas and thoughts would be helpful.