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Well, my EX and I are splitting holidays, thanksgiving is hers, Christmas mine and so on. YOu need to establish boundaries and talk to your ex to be. Don't put your mother in the middle of it. Is it that your ex to be doesn't want to cook for the kids? Tell your stbx that she should spend the holiday with her own family as you're going to be at your mothers and don't want any strife. Or, she can bring the kids to you and you go to your mother's for dinner. However, they are her grandkids, but that being the case, your ex to be should do for herself.
Gawd, that sounds like crap from my stbx's family tree...
IF stbx were to call from close to my father and stepmoms house...wanting to even drop by...they have orders to SHOOT!!!
But, hey, I have no interest in staying "friendly". Just Sane.
2) I think if you can not be in that situation, dont go. I hate to say it as it is a Holiday, but depending on how strong you are, other dinner plans might be more suitable to keep your sanity. (If you have anywhere else to go that is)
If I still wanted to be with my ex, I would go if there was an invite, if I didnt, I would really try to talk to my relatives about disinviting her.
I think it is all about how well you can handle it and what you really need and want. It's really your call on this one.