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I know this subject has been talked to death, but I have decided to spend Thanksgiving by myself. I've been invited to a friend's house, but I think I'd like to be alone and reflect on my life that day.

So I bought a turkey breast (the only manageable size turkey I could find for one person!), and all the things to go with it, and I'm going to cook myself a nice dinner that day.

I'm NOT going to sit here and feel sorry for myself for being alone. I'm spending the day alone by CHOICE. I would like to think about the things I'm thankful for, and even the things I'm not so thankful for. Because I believe that even the bad things in life serve some purpose; it's just not always immediately clear what that purpose is.
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Wish you were back here and I'd have you over to my place for Thanksgiving.

Hope you have a peaceful and comforting day no matter how you spend it.

I'll think about you and all my DS friends that day and give thanks that I know you all.
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My husband and I are working toward reconciliation, but he is not ready to travel 4-1/2 hours to my parents' house with me to do the family Thanksgiving dinner, but he'd thing about it. I probably will be going by myself. My folks are in their mid 70s, and I don't know how long they will be around, but I know they were one of my prime sources of support over the summer when the marriage was in the process of dissolving. I'm going up there to have a good time with or without my husband. I have found I can make decisions for myself finally, I think!
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Janell,
That is wonderful. You have identified the difference between solitude sought and lonliness imposed. Will you write down what you are thankful for, and can you share some of those things with us?
I believe that we should all have an attitude of gratitude. Each day, we say thank you for we had, what we have, and what we will have. Have you seen The Secret? If it's not too late, see if you can get a copy, then watch it on Thanksgiving. What a great day to give thanks!!
Janell, you are on the way to a full and complete recovery!
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I'm thankful for my kids, for my parents who are getting older but still in reasonably good health, my husband and I trying to work out our marital difficulties, my 2 birds, my job and my friends and rest of my family.
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Oh, good, Janell -- I am going to stay home alone too -- the two invites are either too fr or I just don't know the poeple very well -- I think I will be better off staying home and making a nice dinner for a change. The trick will be to do a little planning today before i go to the market.
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Truth be told, I secretly wish one of my neighbors (I don't know any of them, I am kinda new here, but we all are) would invite me over so I could just make a short visit and feel like I had a holiday. What do I do, put up a sign in front of my house saying " one divorcee available for Thxgiving Dinner"/
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Anne, what you could do is bring a pie over to one of your neighbors, just as a nice gesture and to meet them. Then they might invite you in, depending on what they're doing. But if they didn't, would it depress you? I've never actually done this myself, though.
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Reinventing, yes I probably will post something here about what I'm thankful for.

I haven't seen the Secret, I'll have to try to find it this week. I was thinking that I need either a movie or a good book for that day. (Can't spend every minute of the day reflecting on my life, it hasn't been all that exciting!)
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I was very sad about thanksgiving because I will be alone and no family this year. I have decided not to be sad and try to be happy for the things I do have. JUst like you! I still have something to be thankfull for and I can't let this year be a bummer.
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I will be spending Thanksgiving by myself also, no family and no friends have offered. Looks like I will do the Denny's get together with all the other single people this year! Ah screw it! I think I will just stay home and get drunk. . . .
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Sounds like you are getting it together for yourself. Good for you. I always say you have to be comfortable and happy in your own company first. I am glad to hear how you are handling the holiday thing.
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you know that sounds so wonderful and peaceful. and i truly believe that there is a purpose for the things that have changed so drastically in our lives. we just have to be patient. Happy Thanksgiving Janell.
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Thanks, everyone. You guys are definitely something I'm thankful for. I wouldn't have made it this far without people here.
chowgirl
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I'm going to be on my own, too. I'm very thankful that I can afford to buy a turkey to cook, so I'll have leftovers for sandwiches (mmmm). I'm especially thankful that I have a house with a nice kitchen to cook the turkey in. I'm thankful that I have a job that pays well enough that I can afford the house. I'm thankful that I have friends who've invited me to have Thanksgiving with them (even if I don't have the wherewithall to go). I'm thankful that I have my dogs to focus on, so I'm not constantly focusing on my own pain. I'm really thankful that I found this site.
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I hope you have a Great Day!!!

I am having family at my house.
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