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Thank you everyone

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Thank you to all of you who offered up advice and support. I guess I am just fearful of becoming a memory to her, and I am having a difficult time getting over the guilt that I should have done more to keep her loving me and keep our marriage intact.

I have not put off the idea of suicide, that will take time, but I have started to think more about my life and who I affect. My students today made me laugh and smile, helped me to remember what it is like to feel happiness. I have had a lot of kids talk to me about running track, coaching brings me happiness, I guess I got a little down because x-country is over and now I have even more time to think about her.

I will take everyones advice to heart and try to make more of an effort to find my smile again and think of those who have thought so much about me.

Thank you, Teach29
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Life some times is what you make it, if you have to throw every thing into your career and coaching then go for it. You have a lot to live for and hey before you know it some one else will come into your life, you just have to be carefull. Be good and take care, it will get better.
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It doesn't take time to "put of the idea" of suicide. You just take it off the list of possiblities.

As long as you even consider it...it will affect you. You will make decisions based on it. It will ruin you and make things worse.

You have to go on with the idea that life is a collection of possibilities. -POSITIVE- possibilites. If you choose to see things in a negative light, you will only see those things which reinforce your already pessimistic point of view.

It all begins with choices.

Please make them good ones.
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Way to go, you are valuable and need to remember that. It sounds like you do a great job teaching. I know that my children's teachers are so valuable in their lives. Thank you for staying around. I haven't got to know you well enough. :)
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Glad you're better. I guess some fleeting thoughts of suicide are not unsusual given our situation. The important thing to realize is that suicide is not a solution and that it will rob us of all the good things the universe has to offer us down the road.
I am glad you had the strength and courage to get yourself out of that abyss and to reach out. Next time you feel dark remind yourself of today where you smiled and felt happy again. These days will come back and they will become more frequent. You are worth it.
bigguy3
bigguy3
I had a good friend help bring sunshine back into my life. Just by talking to her about happy memories in my past helped me to realize that I didn't have to CHOOSE to be miserable. I like who I was before I got married, I like who I was for the bulk of my marriage, but I didn't like the person I had twisted myself to become in the last couple of years of our marriage in a desperate attempt to try and please her. I have since returned to being the person that I like and I have rediscovered happiness ... and it feels GOOD!!!
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Yea, what hg said.
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teach, i'm glad your kids gave you a reason to smile today. i also wonder how many kids you make smile each day because they come from a shitty home. i wonder how many of then look forward to seeing you, or coming to your class each day because your important to them, or you make them feel good about themselves. i too thought of suicide twice when my break-up occured. right now, i thank God i'm here to be with my children and grandson and the friends that truly love me. counseling, alanon, ds, these are the things that have brought me as far as i am right now. i know your hurting, so am i, and everyone else on this site. hang in there. you may have something to say someday that may have quite a wonderful impact on someones life or to someone here who needs to hear it. God Bless. stay strong.
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Teach I am happy you are getting such great advice and support here from your DS friends..hang in there..((HUGS))
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Well, if you teach you should realize that suicide is statistically contagious. Whoever has an important person in their life who is a suicide becomes severalfold more likely to commit suicide. Speaking from experience, I can say it is truly the 'gift' that keeps on giving.
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