He sounds like a real wiener...

Sorry...

Tami, I'm sorry it's not fair. I think it's OK to let go and let them know sometimes how we really feel. I would go dancing with you :)

and you should HAVE your band...I say throw yourself a party....or my favorite...Spa day...but hey thats me....you deserve...start giving it to yourself and you will never settle for less than you deserve again!!!

The hell with him T....we will get a band for you when everything is final!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

She is an ugly little Troll. Son says she looks like Hilary Clinton, with red hair and a wider ass!!! But she is Short. So, that is a plus for her-in his eyes, I guess. And, she is from his home town...so he will think she is Wonderful.

I don't know why the Band part is bothering me...except-Shit, I didn't even get MY concert this year.

I am not very rational, am I...

I can feel the hurt, but I dont know what to say.

Rational? Sure you are, he's a jerk and you are upset.

What concert didn't you get this year?

Tami I feel the same way, the time he invited her to the coast our beach house he planned this whole dinner and cooked it for her, has he ever done that for me. Hell no.

cut yourself a break...rational comes much much later.....honestly I dont know if it better they are uglier or prettier...either way it totally sucks...I promise you will make it to other side....I couldnt get out of bed...I would be somewhere and jsut have to leave suddenly I wud be around people and then I couldnt be around anyone...there are phases....but I still think if you FEEL it...take it like a gut punch ....then you get over it...trying to avoid it just prolongs recovery....I am so sorry beacause I so feel your state of mind.....it goes in every direction really fast...every emotion...promise promise there is a light at the end!!!

Tami, I am so sorry that your stbx is being this way. It is unfair to you. Hell, have a party without him, you'll have LOTS more fun that way too HEHEHE!~!

skynyrd. That is my big party every year...we take everyone, even took our UPS guy and his wife last year.

This year he said he was too busy and didn't like the venues...one was a winery overlooking the ocean.

He is back to yelling at ME, telling ME that THIS is why he is Divorcing ME...I "overreact" and don't mind my own Business.

Hell, for ONCE I told him that I am GLAD for the Divorce!!! I am just Pissed over the Damned Band!!! That Hurts!!!

He had the gall to tell me all the STUFF that I have had, STUFF...he said that I had everything but HIM and I should have been Happy with that!!!

Crap. I never wanted Stuff, I wanted a Person.

yelling..so ineffective...and I love it...overreact...because you have feelings.... f that...you have the right to feel this and I think he has some guilt or something if he is yelling at you...what a jerk.. I hope he feels like crap!

Yea, the "extra" effort for the new love is hard to take. If they had put half that effort into what we had.....

Well they didn't...

Oh Tami, I'm sorry! I think they actually learn something about what to do the next time around. It hurts to see the hard-earned life lessons get spent on someone else!

As for me, I had always hinted that I'd like to have had an engagement ring -- and I'll be willing to bet you that anyone my stbx gets close with will be wearing a ring...

Fact of the matter is that they go for the low-hanging fruit... bands and jewelry won't make his new relationship better unless they've learned a lot more about giving -- and I don't mean stuff...

Hugs!!!

I think you need a hug