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OK, I know what you all will say but I will bring it up anyway. Last month, on our 1 month anniversary of him walking out (with a phone call, so not really walking out), I sent STBX a Happy 1 Month Anniversary of Him Leaving Letter. Never got a reply from the letter but didn't really expect to. Well today is the 2nd month anniversary and I really want to send another letter. The letters go something like, how could you do this, how can you not speak with yours children regulary, and how I am feeling about the whole situation. What do you think?
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You're giving him power by telling him how much he's hurting you.
You won't accomplish anything by sending it.
Nothing good anyway.
((hug))
I know this sucks.
Is he sitting around thinking, dwelling, being upset over this? No. He'll get the letter, and if he even reads it, he'll toss it away.
All he cares about right now is himself, no words from you will change that.
If you really can't resist. Write it, hold onto, and see if you feel like sending it in a few days.
I wrote countless letters to my then wife, then ex. never mailed them. actually made journal entries so they are there for whenever...
I asked the counselor if he wanted this to be single or double spaced and how many words it had to be... and he laughed and I laughed.. stbx was standing there and he didn't find it very funny. oh well...
The point is to release these pent up emotions and try to move forward. You don't send the letter to stbx because ... well, why would you? The stbx obviously doesn't understand your pain, never will understand your pain, and basically doesn't care about your pain.
Write it down for yourself to release and heal... it has nothing to do with the stbx.