Write it, get it out, burn it. Don't send it.
You're giving him power by telling him how much he's hurting you.
You won't accomplish anything by sending it.
Nothing good anyway.
((hug))
I know this sucks.

No. Don't send that. Don't give him power. I know it hurts and he's an AHOLE and really, HOW could he do that to his family, BUT, he is not worth the effort!
Is he sitting around thinking, dwelling, being upset over this? No. He'll get the letter, and if he even reads it, he'll toss it away.
All he cares about right now is himself, no words from you will change that.

If you really can't resist. Write it, hold onto, and see if you feel like sending it in a few days.

CELEBRATE!Look at it differently,you were not abandoned you were liberated!

Yes, what sara says. Write, get it out and burn it. Then go get a massage. :-)

I completely agree with Sara. I was going to say the same thing. Write it down - possibly as a journal entry so you know you wont mail it. Let those feelings and frustration out. But dont give him the satisfaction of knowing how you are hurting. And if he didnt respond then, he probably will not now which will just make you feel worse. Definitely write it in a journal.

yes... agree with Sara...

No don't send it. He will live with the consequences of his actions, your words only give him another reason to blame you.

I would write the letter, but don't send it. If you haven't heard from him don't give him the satisfaction that you are still hurt and thinking about him. All that will do is feed his ego and make you upset when he doesn't answer.

Write the letter and send it to me or to one of your friends.

I agree with sara.
I wrote countless letters to my then wife, then ex. never mailed them. actually made journal entries so they are there for whenever...

OK, so you write it and send it and he doesn't respond again. Definition of crazy - doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different response. I am in the same boat - lonely hurting and don't understand, but you will heal better and faster with no contact.

I say why waste time writing letters to some one that is never going to read them and your never going to send. Why not right about what you future will be and what you want to do with you life. List all the postives in your life and concentrate on then, I see no sense on dwelling what was you need to start looking to the future.

I agree with the posts about not giving him the power over you by letting him know how much he hurt you, he's not listening anyway and you can blow off your steam here or on paper somewhere with out wasting your breath on him.

I agrree writ and delete it.

I had a counselor advise me to write a letter to stbx telling him everything I wanted to tell him for the past 20 years. I was told that getting this out would be a way to help me deal with some of the pain and move past it instead of keeping all of these emotions bottled up inside.

I asked the counselor if he wanted this to be single or double spaced and how many words it had to be... and he laughed and I laughed.. stbx was standing there and he didn't find it very funny. oh well...

The point is to release these pent up emotions and try to move forward. You don't send the letter to stbx because ... well, why would you? The stbx obviously doesn't understand your pain, never will understand your pain, and basically doesn't care about your pain.

Write it down for yourself to release and heal... it has nothing to do with the stbx.