Gee listen to the men around here and they swear that only they get taken to the cleaners. Guess they are wrong.Sorry about that, the posts lately have been so one sided it is ridiculous.
I think that I got the raw deal because my x lied about his income and is not being forced to pay his court ordered support.

Boy I was sent to the cleaners too. My stbx even requested extra starch.

Look, you don't even have to be married or MALE to get taken to the cleaners. My ex and I were engaged for 5 of t he six years we were together. We bought a condo together. IN order for me to get away from his cheating fag ass (no offense to gays, especially if they were in the handful he didn't cheat on me with) I took a HUGE loss on the condo. You don't have to be married or male to get the shaft put to you!

One of my friends lost her house, primary care of her daughter AND had to pay child support and alimony - because he was a lazy slacker and she had a good job....the courts gouged us at about the same time - was a trend I wondered was continuing...might just be

Can't say I got "taken to the cleaners"..but the financial hits definately go both ways.

My stbx husband and I have owned a duplex together for almost 4 years - 3 while we were engaged. It was titled Joint Tenants in Common with no other stipulations. By MT law and CO law that is a 50/50 split, but he is fighting it anyway and he has been able to get past the law 3 different times so far in CO. He is really getting ugly to try to take everything.

agree with some of the posts. unless unbelievably wealthy (and it hits them as well), divorce is a new beginning with half the income. some gripe that they have to pay ungodly child support, but it is a formula and it is a responsibility - i pay a ton and i also understand that i owe it to my children. everyone pays in divorce, financially, emotionally, just about every way. it is unbelievable to think, divorce rate over 50% in our country, think of all that hate or at least anger.

Yeah, my husband is leaving me which means we have to sell the house because I can't afford it on my own, even with alimony and child support. A nice house that I worked *my* ass for too. Now I'm forced out of my home with a run down car while my stbx gets the new truck. I get child support and a little bit of alimony, but my level of living has gone down tremendously. And his has gone down, too because he has to pay me each month to keep his daughter schooled, housed, and clothed. Nobody wins in divorce.

I literally got NOTHING the last time and he got everything because he played dirty pool - got the lowest, of the low life for an attorney and it worked for him. My friend's husband did the same thing - got a nasty attorney and got his friends to lie in court about her - it seems there is no level too low to stoop when it comes to men, their egos and their money.

Please read Cynthi's post about worry everyone. I am convicted!

"Behold, I send you out as sheep in the midst of wolves; so be shrewd as serpents and innocent as doves.

I watched what my spouse had to endure when he divorced his ex of 20 years with three kids. She was the PSYCHO BITCH FROM HELL! What we did not know was that she went around saying that M (her ex my spouse) had incestuous relations with his two teenage daughters! How sick is that?
We lived in a different city than the ex and the girls came to live with us because their mother was such a wet blanket and that's how this woman with a Masters Degree in Social Work behaved!
Thee years later, we happened to learn of this horrible lie told about M and I just prayed for things to come full circle and eventually they did. I had the chance to tell her former father-in-law what she had made up about his son so he cut her out of the will. Zippo~ nada~ finiteto~ and boy did I feel good about that!

My STBX will see a rise in his standard of living (even more to spend on hookers and booze) while I struggle to raise our kids. He also is trying to get part of some property I bought years before I met him, and which I mortgaged to get money out in order to supplement our income (since our expenses included hookers and booze)! He is low!

PS I see I did not include anything helpful for you....try to get the meanest SOB atty you can. Not a nice one whose shoulder you can cry on and who 'understands'. Get a bastard.

I worry every day that my stbx is going to get off the drugs and realize he isn't getting "his fair share". My attorney is good, but I don't think she's nasty. I will keep my house no matter what, so I say find a nasty attorney if you need one. There are plenty of them out there (no offense to any attorneys online).