1. That I don't like to cook. Haven't cook anything more challenging than a lean cuisine in 3 months! Next man I meet better love to cook or eat out a lot. I've done my time as the family cook, never again.

2. That an alcoholic beverage at the end of the day is a relaxing thing. Hardly ever drank before the turmoil of divorce - just made me sleepy. Now I really appreciate that nightly glass of wine.

3. That I am as emotionally strong or as weak as I think I am. I choose strong. That I am as happy or unhappy as I choose to be. I choose happy.

4. That I can live without a man and survive. Had to go outside the other night with a flashlight through a snarl of bushes to flip an overloaded circuit breaker. Seems silly but in the past, stbx would have taken care of it. I'm sort of proud of myself.

5. Damn, Happy2b, I thought I was the only one who could lick the bottom of a single serving cup of pudding with my tongue. I guess I had better call the Guiness World Book of Records people back and tell them forget it.

1. I can manage a lot of things on my own, that I didn't think I could do.

2. That I'm not the crazy one- HE is.

3. That I can turn off the phone and leave it off.

4. That I hate watching his sports channels.

5. That my kids think I'm doing a good job alone and applaud me for it.

Not much, maybe, but baby steps.......

I am proud of all of you in your "steps" to healing. Yes, it all takes time & sometimes time seems to stand still. We are all strong people & just have to keep saying "I CAN & WILL DO THIS FOR MYSELF!~!"

1. I've learned that I have been doing this on my own for a long time.

2. I've learned that I can say no to my kids, they may be made, but they still love me.

3. That I am becoming addicted to Wendy's frosty's they just make me feel good.

4. That I can let go of certain dreams, and start no ones.

5. That I can look pretty spiffy when I want to...

6. Going to try the pudding cup thing, never crossed my mind

1. I can do things he never thought I could.

2. My house is so much cleaner now that I am solely responsible for it.

3. I can be happy on my own.

4. I am strong!

happy, didn't have any pudding, but just tried to lick the bottom of a single serving applesauce cup and it was a no go. Oh well, some people have all the talent :)

Imhealing, we have to take whatever talents we're given & use them the best we can! Kind of wish my talent had been making millions of bucks instead of licking pudding cups but you use what you've got. :)

1. That I deserve to be just as happy as anyone else, despite the wrong things I did...

2. That I am not evil or a bad person. Just a good person who made mistakes.

3. My friends (the ones I consider my true friends), will give it to me straight and tell me like it is....and often have. They don't condone my past mistakes, but see that I am sorry for what I've done, and see how I am trying to get on with my life.

4. I don't "owe" my STBX anything. We are divorcing and she'll be free of me very soon. I've been nothing but a liability/anchor to her, and now she can sail into her life without me holding her back.

5. Other things, which I'll save for another post/thread/reply....another time. ;)

Seriously, Imhealing? A single serving of applesauce cup is only 2 inches deep. The pudding cup is at least twice that. We may need to pitch in and get you a tongue extender.

I have realized that wearing your heart on your sleeve isn't always the best..especially during a divorce. However I have also learned;
1.Respect myself and others will too,
2.The little stressfull moments that come up in daily life, no longer matter,
3.Your true friends surround you with their support
4.My children are my life, without them I would be lost.

OMG!!!! A tongue extender!!! Oh, Gemini! The places we could go & the things we could do!!! Whip creme bowls! Containers of cake icing! :)

Okay, I can do whip cream bowls already (blushing). Although, I often end up with cool whip on my nose (really blushing). Cake icing....hmm, that might be worth looking into.

Thanks, Gemini! It's a good thing I'm not a guy, huh? :)

Ok Gemini, I must concede the title to you. I tryed to Whipped creme. Sorry to say I ended up w/ creme on my nose...& eyelashes. So you win by an eyelash!

Call Guiness & I will be your cheering squad! :)

Thanks for the smiles!