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Support for US..help please.

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I need a little help. My wife is confused about what she wants. I believe that she around a support system that is passive and does not really care one way or the other. Our marriage was wonderful and, yes....we had some problems. I have made some mistakes and I have done some things to cause pain, but I have grown. I love my family entirely and I need them in my life. What I am asking is some support for our marriage. She is simply afraid, but she does love me with all of her heart. If any of you can provide some words of encouragement for our marriage.....that it is worth it to try for a love as strong as ours.....please send her a hug and a message. I just dont want her to go without knowing or being encouraged that it may be worth it. Her profile name is Krys679

http://dailystrength.org/component/option,com_comprofiler/Itemid,47/task,userProfile/user,138805/


I would appreciate it. Thank you DS'ers.
Love you all.
deleted_user
deleted_user
You are both on DS together? Wow.
deleted_user
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She hasn't posted anything yet. Just a thought, It may backfire if a lot of people tell her to stay without knowing her story.

She would be right not to trust our advice if we try to encourage her to work on something and we don't know how she feels.

See if she can post some of her thoughts. I do think it's great that you are BOTH here. It speaks volumes.
deleted_user
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Interesting. We need to get you both here at the same time and you each can present your cases. We will straiten you both out. You both can argue till kingdom comes and as a couple you will have an objective audience providing blow by blow feedback. Sounds like a good set up. At one time I would have done that with ex. It's too late now.
deleted_user
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dangerous can of worms to duke it out in front of everyone here. If someone mentions cheating or any other hot button you will have a lot of people who just can't be objective if they hear about cheating or any abuse that is similar to their situation. If she come on I would recommend you both see a professional....Just a thought.
deleted_user
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Ask her to post.

Also ask her to go to marriage counseling. If the marriage can be saved it should and it will take a lot of hard work from both of you. But you have to at least try and give it everything you've got before you break up, especially with kids involved.

Good luck. HUGS
deleted_user
deleted_user
I am glad to hear that you are working on the marriage together maybe the fact that you are both here will be your first step forward
deleted_user
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B, i want you to know, i will give the same support and encouragement to your wife as i do to you and everyone else here. i will not use this site to try and pressure her into giving your marriage another try, that is between the two of you. i have come to like you very much, i believe that people can change and everyone makes mistakes. one word of caution... if you have any issues that should remain between the two of you, please give it a lot of consideration and thought before you post something on here that shouldn't be here and is going to cause a lot trouble for you both.
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