Breakups & Divorce Support Group

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My husband left ME. I did not want this, do not want the divorce. I made more money than him and will in the future. Can he get spousal support from me even though HE left????
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The way it works here is it is all about money if you make more then him you get to pay support.
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i would think that since he abandoned you that you wouldnt
have to. if he has also shown in the past that he is capable of makeing as much as you then no.
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Depends on a lot of factors. Although, the one Wick pointed out is a biggie. It also depends on where you live and how long you were married. Except in the case of adultery (in some states) fault has nothing to do with spousal support. Best to consult an attorney.
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Cali is a no fault state so they can do what ever they want dump you and demand half.
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Depends on where you live, how you do your separation agreements, etc. I have the same problem but am trying to set it off by taking the majority of the debt. I won't know until the end of Nov. what will happen.

I hope it works out for you.
deleted_user
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WHAT??
That's just wrong. Ok, I guess I'll have to get legal counsel and contest the divorce.
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I see you are from Canuckistan. I have no idea what the divorce laws are up there.

You need to go see an attorney.
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Yes, unfortunately if you're the breadwinner you'll have to pay spousal support.
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I take back my statement. I should have read the comments and read your profile...I'm thinking in terms of my own experience...I'm from California and it's a no-fault state so whoever makes the most money in the marriage is going to be the one who pays spousal support regardless of how the marriage ended.
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I, too, was the bigger earner. I actually had my boss wait to pay my bonuses in case it came to a problem. But since the kids live with me he has to pay child support even though I make more. CT it doesn't matte who left, even if there was adultery. Because we both care so much about the kids there was no fighting. Maybe if you try mediation it will work for you?? Good luck.
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