I would continue going at the usual time. Why take the chance. Your ex might think you're just going in the morning to see her or try to make her jealous. I would leave things the way they are as it could definitely set you back.

There is no way I could go anywhere I thought my ex might be, im still to hurt, dont know if id ever be able to even entertain the thought of being in the same room with him.. Id probably pass out of faint.. Just me..

Is there another gym you can join? Or maybe you could keep your normal time but do something else with your friend like jogging in the morning? There's nothing wrong with all 3 of you being there if it doesn't cause problems. Will it?

Did you know your ex went there in the am?

Like the others have said, perhaps do something else with your friend or ask if she can go to the gym at night with you. It's great that you have a friend that is helping you through this difficult phase. Just try to concentrate on you and your new life.

@ new2this....well I don't know it might cause old feelings to arise..but I wanted to go with my friends cause I know it will only help but not if its gonna set me back..and the problem is they are only able to go in the a.m. so its either I go with them in the a.m. or go alone in the p.m. I was weighing the pros and cons...whats ur opinion??

@strongal..@new2this...well I use to go in the a.m. when we were together and I've been doing that for about five years, and I just recently switched it up cause I wanted a change...she use to go a while back but did not go for a long while...and when my friends asked me to go, this was a couple of days ago before I was aware she was going in the mornings..now I can either go in the a.m.with my friends and face her or go alone in the p.m. and continue what im doing...but honestly I don't know if im ready to face her yet...

@Dren ....yeah I hear u ...but I don't want to do it prematurely ...I think I would want to face it when im healed alot more ...what do u think??

Ok, there are a lot of different answers to this. It's not one of those things that has a generic answer. So I'll tell you what I would do if it were me. I'd call my ex and tell him I have a friend that I'd like to go to the gym with but it's at the same time you go. Is there a problem with that? But that's me and that's my ex. I also don't have any feelings for him and we get along fine when we run into each other. I think you're going to have to figure this one out for yourself. You may want to just try it and see what happens if you can't feel her out ahead of time. Of course if you know it's going to bother you then there is no reason to even consider it. You're emotional state is more important than where and who you exercise with.

Thanks everyone for your advice and once again you all helped me a great deal with this situation...so Im going to continue doing what I do and avoid her and keep the no contact rule in effect until I feel ready to possibly running into her..but until then I will avoid her at all cost...thanks everyone :)

Don't even go there!!! Working out with your friends should be something that takes your mind OFF of your ex and helps relieve stress. That won't happen if she is there. And she will think you are doing it to make her jealous, control her etc. (because the world does revolve around her you know haha)

You won't have to arrange your life around her forever, but it is probably too soon.

How did your date go? Friend at the game?

@itsmyjob ...yeah I hear u it is too soon...as far as my date it wasn't really a date it was actually three of us that went to the game ...it was a blast we laughed and had an awesome time...the game ran late tho..and getting out of the staples center wasn't easy either but I had a blast:)

i agree with "itsmyjob" it is too soon. she may only be going at this time to get a rise out of you and if not she may think you are trying to make her jealous. yes it true, this is only a temporary thing.

good luck!!