Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
I remember how it was to be in the very beginning of the horrible loss of a marriage/relationship. It will get better! But, it does take some effort every once in awhile. You've really got to force yourself to do things to take a break from the all consuming pain, hurt & grief.....
Things you can do:
Go outside and sit in the sun for 5 minutes.
Turn on the TV or go online to see that there are huge human tradegies much greater than what we are going through playing out.
Take a walk.
Take a break from the on line site(s) that may keep you wallowing in your pain.
Get involved in something.....anything....volunteer
Spend some time with a child
Spend a few minutes making someone's day
Remember there is a war going on. Troops are being killed & maimed everyday. Write a letter to them. Put together a care package and send it to one. (There are sites to get names)
Go to a nursing home and spend time with an elderly person.
The list is endless. Will it be hard??? Hell ya. Was it hard for me??? Hell ya!!!
Things you can do:
Go outside and sit in the sun for 5 minutes.
Turn on the TV or go online to see that there are huge human tradegies much greater than what we are going through playing out.
Take a walk.
Take a break from the on line site(s) that may keep you wallowing in your pain.
Get involved in something.....anything....volunteer
Spend some time with a child
Spend a few minutes making someone's day
Remember there is a war going on. Troops are being killed & maimed everyday. Write a letter to them. Put together a care package and send it to one. (There are sites to get names)
Go to a nursing home and spend time with an elderly person.
The list is endless. Will it be hard??? Hell ya. Was it hard for me??? Hell ya!!!
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I gave my 2 week notice last Friday 13th. Now to join you fine people in a life of leisure and nothing else to do but to look out for myself....is it just me or does that sound pretty boring? My goal was to live to retire and I guess having to take early retirement because of health reasons wasn't exactly the way I had planned things. I just can't stay in that building that is reeking mildew...
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
- Pet a pet. If you don't have a pet, visit a shelter to visit the animals.
- Read a self-help book on the topic that's giving you grief. The more you research, the more you may feel empowered and confident to overcome your issue.
- Write your feelings in a journal. Don't have one? START ONE. You can even do the online version here on DS and make it private if you choose.
- Rent a movie - a comedy or action flick.
- Research Meetup groups in your area and actually attend one of their events. (I was terrified to go to one of these, afraid of being uncomfortable around strangers. WRONG! It was the best thing I could have ever done... new activities, new friends, new adventure!)
- Cook or bake something new from a cookbook -- then enjoy the fruit of your labor.
- Do a crossword puzzle.
- Get a part-time job to keep you busy.
Any other suggestions?
Two other things on my mind is volunteering, and adopting a pet. I want to do some ongoing, uplifting things that will not just make be feel better but also something that will be a part of my life for the longterm.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=D_oLKupaubo
turn up the volume shake your a$$ fora few minutes
I've also found cooking to be a great distraction. Tonight's menu considerations thus far are macaroni au fromage, pomme frites, and btonnets de poisson. Or pizza. I can't decide. I'll leave it up to the kids...
I took a long walk, saw parts of my city I never noticed before. It's time to allow yourself new experiences!
*join a gym and go work out or take a class (Zumba is fun! embarrassing for beginners, but great fun)
*go to worship service or study group at your church (if you have one) or consider trying one out if you don't
*don't turn down invitations to do things or go out with people, even if you don't feel real enthusiastic about it; you never know what might turn out to be a great time. and remember that one invitation is likely to lead to others
*go to the library and pick out an armload of books
*go sit at your favorite bookstore/coffeehouse/hotspot
*skip the drinks--seriously, alcohol is the worst possible thing to throw on top of depression and/or strong emotions
*call an old friend you haven't talked to in ages
*write in a journal, or start one online
*revive an old hobby you haven't practiced in ages
*read poetry, seriously, even if you're not a fan, there are so many poems that will speak directly to your soul in ways you never expected
*get out of the house, get out of the house, get out of the house! you need to get out of the house!
*buy some new music to listen to, or if you don't want to spend money, start searching for new music channels on Pandora
*throw some junk away! what an awesome feeling it is to toss clothes you don't really feel good in or stuff that's cluttering up a closet or cabinet, etc
*send cards to friends and family! if you're blessed to have grandparents living, or some really faithful friends or a sibling whom you are close to, think how special they will feel if you send them a real card (no ecards, that's cheating, go to store, select card, handwrite a note, post it snailmail)
*if money isn't an issue, go to your favorite store and buy a new outfit or article of clothing that makes you feel attractive and expresses your sense of style, you'll feel better when you wear it
*along the same lines, make sure you get up, shower and get dressed in something you feel good in each day. hanging out in loungewear and not getting presentable leaves you feeling low
I always found it nice to talk to coworkers at work and just cut up and laugh. A little smile never hurt anyone.
Driving to get your favorite drink from Sonic or anywhere! A milkshake perhaps?
Read a good book, watch a funny movie, invite a friend to dinner or to go and see something new in the city that weekend.
redecorate, reorganize, garden, count all the small blessings you have in your life you take for granted and right them down
visit relatives and friends you would normally not have time for. not only will it make their day but it will yours as well.