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Just a quick summary of my situation, My ex was very mentally/emotionally abusive. He had an affair with our 19 year old nanny..it was a very bizarre...during the divorce process I was shocked at the way he treated me ( it was that bad ). I am proud to say that I took the high road and never criticized him ever in front of the kids. I was not difficult during the divorce, I wanted to come out of this with my dignity intact. My children will put it all together when they are older and that will be hard enough for them.
My ex is now being the super nice guy to the kids and me. My children do not understand why I do not want him in my home and why I will not go to family events with him etc.. Of course my ex looks like a saint and I look like a b$@tch. I don't know how to explain to the kids that I can't be with their father without saying he was not very nice to me, is it ok to say that? I would love any suggestions or feedback
Thanks..
My ex is now being the super nice guy to the kids and me. My children do not understand why I do not want him in my home and why I will not go to family events with him etc.. Of course my ex looks like a saint and I look like a b$@tch. I don't know how to explain to the kids that I can't be with their father without saying he was not very nice to me, is it ok to say that? I would love any suggestions or feedback
Thanks..
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Lucky bastard !
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Your ex.
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He is ... the way you portray him.
Very lucky.
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I am guessing that one day you will have to be around him with kids around, like at family events...but I can see why you do not want to at this time.
What dose your instint say to do?
I would just tell them that sometimes two people have trouble getting along (even if they are both nice to others), and that in those cases its best if they don't try to be together too much. Yes, you may be implicitly assuming some of the responsibilty for the situation by saying that, but it has the virtue of being true in general, and the time for "full disclosure" to the kids is at least several years down the road.
I'll throw up on your stbx for you if you want. he he