
Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

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I know that this question has been asked and answered so many times but, im new here.
I dont love my wife....things have been emotionally sterile for a long time now...I know its time for a divorce and we are ready to start the ball rolling asap.
The problem i have is that i look into my (almost 2 y/o) sons eyes and i feel like such a worthless sack of you know what when i think about seperating him from his mom...even though it would only be part of the day/night. We are going to have joint custody but he will live with me. I feel like maybe I should just beg to stay together even though it makes me miserable. I think about how happy my boy is now and i dont want to mess him up.
What to do???
I dont love my wife....things have been emotionally sterile for a long time now...I know its time for a divorce and we are ready to start the ball rolling asap.
The problem i have is that i look into my (almost 2 y/o) sons eyes and i feel like such a worthless sack of you know what when i think about seperating him from his mom...even though it would only be part of the day/night. We are going to have joint custody but he will live with me. I feel like maybe I should just beg to stay together even though it makes me miserable. I think about how happy my boy is now and i dont want to mess him up.
What to do???
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Love him, reassure him that mommy and daddy both love him and parent as best as you possibly can. Never mistreat him or use him as a pawn against your Ex.
A child that age needs love and reassurance.. no complicated concepts are going to work.
you know it's time to go and it's important that he go into the world eventually knowing what a good relationship looks like. you don't want him sitting in something that looks like your marriage, and that is what you teach him by staying. sorry. *hugs*
Each situation is different and i think leaving "should" happen for certain reasons ie. alcoholism, drag abuse, physical abuse.
I honestly DONT believe it is impossible to work through or resolve ANYTHING. That all depends upon the people involved.
We live in a quick fix,me me me, on the go society. Divorce has become the norm and is socially acceptable and i will even venture to say..almost expected.
How do we teach our children to work through relationships? bailing?! While i agree it is dangerous for children to see an unhealthy relationship as well.....my honest answer is its up to us. To stop being so god damn selfish that we are willing tolet the children grow up with less than what they deserve because of self serving purposes.
Unhappiness needs to be communicated, It rages out of control too often than naught when its "too late"
I dont know. i dont believe in it. This is not the choice i wanted to make. i was forced. imgoing to get off the soap box right there
There isnt enough information in your post. Do you want out because the honeymoon is over?
Only opfra says yes get a divorce without knowing the facts.
I will leave it at that.
Wishing you the best.
- my wife works 2am to 2pm daily.
- she refuses to cut down on her hours to spend more time with us because "her job is too important to her".
- she didnt want to try counseling until I made her realize I was serious about divorce.
- the relationship was basically one that started at work between two people who worked way too many hours with each other and one thing led to another. When the baby was a month away we got married because we both thought it was the "right" thing to do.
Namaste01..I appreciate that you are upfront about your feelings on the matter.
- My parents were divorced and remarried twice...maybe thats where I get it from?
I am in the same place. I do not want the divorce but my wife does. I get sick to my stomach thinking about the day we tell our children.
Scott
The post is titled "Suffer for the Child?" I say HELL YES!!!! So it gets uncomfortable for a while and you have to push through. It may take a while but you will most likely have no regrets for your hard work and your child certainly will thank you.
I write this as a teacher kibbers. I have worked with children for many years and see the stress and all of the effects on them. I see how it changes their lives FOREVER and how it manipulates their thinking in their adult lives. I have seen firsthand...8 hours a day..5 days a week...with a class FULL of little ones just what it does economically, socially,mentally,emotionally and the list goes on.
just my opinion as a professional working with kids day in and day out.