
Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

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I am having this overwhelming desire to leave him a VM or an e-mail telling him exactly what I think -- I will not do it -- I will write that I want to do it on this here site instead -- I just got one of those stabbing urges to tell him what an absolute idiot he is but I know it will go nowhere. He is turning a blind eye to everything. I have to go silently, don't I. Is there never a time for venting at him, ever again? Am I just stuck with the truths all to myself about what a jackass he is? I know of no=one except himself adn possibly OW that thinks he is a great guy -- everyone else who knows him knows what an ass he is. How is it that he doesn't get to fully know adn comprehend what an irresponsible addicted jerk he is? I have to be the bigger person, theone that understands that I must focus on myself and move forward, I know, I know. OK, I feel a little bettter, letting my negative feelings spill out here just a tad. Trying to convey them to stbx accomlished NOTHING and I know it. My God, he is a selfish idiot. And I cannot control that, can I, cannot make him be responsible. Sigh......
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Hope it gets better for you. Someday the OW will know....believe me!
But, you CAN make him pay! LOL!;-)
I have a journal on my computer where every letter I have ever written him is! He works on my computer when it has issues and yep, you guessed it! He had told me that he would not ever go into any of my private stuff,, but the proof was in his eyes! LOL,,, I got the last laugh, cause I never trusted him! LOL
Hugs to you!
But sometimes the uncontrollable urge to scream it out to them gets the best of us. I've taken the advice of a friend of mine who went through a divorce last year and it seems to work well...
If you want to send an email or letter to them, write it out EXACTLY how you want to say it, and save it as a draft and keep it in a safe folder. You get to vent, which will make you feel better, but then you don't have to deal with the fallout if you actually send it.
I think it is this feeling of no control over something that is effecting our life so greatly that gets me going and want to just reach out and "touch" someone! (her)
I know we would all like so to be able to talk to that person, to be able to respond and not feel like we just have to accept it and move on.
Funny thing in my situation, she still wants to come back, in to hte apt and "get closure". She feels I need to let her do that. I say, "I am sorry, I would have assumed you got closure when you spread your legs and fucked that married man"