I can't imagine that stbx and his girlfriend will stay together long. A relationship takes work and he isn't willing to put that effort into it. Once she figures out that he can't get her a green card for the states she'll be gone like the wind.

I don't know. I'm only 21 years old and I don't have much experience. I can tell you this though- I've been in love twice and I never thought the first time was meant to be. He broke up with me and got a new girlfriend and they have been together for 4 years and someone said that is because they were meant to be but we weren't. But then I found out that he often cheats on her. My 2nd love- I feel I am meant to be with him, we've known eachother for two years and these times have been awful for both of us. I broke up with him and he moved to china. I feel I am meant to be with him. Who knows? Maybe only time will tell that and it all hurts beyond belief. I'm sorry I can't help you further, but I do think that loving someone and being meant for each other are different but intertwined. Like I said, one guy I lved but I felt I wasn't meant for him, while the other I do both.

I'm not sure that any 2 people are "meant to be together" To me, if that was the case, the relationship wouldn't require any work to maintain and we all know that even the best relationship takes effort from both who are involved.

the timestamp says today but this is Deja Vu, didn't someone ask the same exact question a week or so ago?


Depends on what pov you want, some say All is on purpose. Ever read that Reason, Season, Lifetime email that's been sent around the world?

http://www.steeldog.com/reasonseasonlifetime.htm

I think it says it best.

Reason, Season and Lifetime

..

People always come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime.

When you figure out which it is, you know exactly what to do.

..

When someone is in your life for a REASON,

it is usually to meet a need you have expressed outwardly or inwardly.

They have come to assist you through a difficulty,

or to provide you with guidance and support,

to aid you physically, emotionally, or even spiritually.

They may seem like a godsend to you, and they are.

They are there for the reason you need them to be.

...

Then, without any wrong doing on your part or at an inconvenient time,

this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end.

...

Sometimes they die. Sometimes they just walk away.

Sometimes they act up or out and force you to take a stand.

What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled; their work is done.

The prayer you sent up has been answered and it is now time to move on.

...

When people come into your life for a SEASON,

it is because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn.

They may bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh.

They may teach you something you have never done.

They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy.

Believe it! It is real! But, only for a season.

And like Spring turns to Summer and Summer to Fall,

the season eventually ends.

...

LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons;

those things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation.

Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person/people (anyway);

and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas in your life.



~Brian A. "Drew" Chalker~

and of course, John & Paul:

There's nothing you can know that isn't known.
Nothing you can see that isn't shown.
Nowhere you can be that isn't where you're meant to be.
It's easy.

That takes entirely Too Much Thought.

Sometimes we try to Make something fit into the "Meant to BE" by not releasing it immediatly when we feel it start to burn us.

For whatever reason, we continue to hold on and we miss out on the Big Dream that we really Wanted.

Who Knows...maybe the new people in Their Lives WERE the Meant to Be's!!! Maybe WE made the mistakes by not releasing in the beginning-I know that I sure did.

See, too much thought.

i believe in soulmate. have i met mine? i have no idea. if i have he has come and gone. would i recognize him if i met him? haven't a clue. would love to meet him though

it's hard to say. i definately think that it is a rebound relationship between my ex and his new girlfriend. he is not ready for a relationship. she may be, but i know he is not. it is really not fair to her. but, she knew what she was getting into.
and yes...i do believe that two people can be meant to be together. at the same time...any relationship takes work and effort on both parts. but, w/someone special...it should come very easily.

Just as long as "meant to be" isn't taken for granted. If you truly believe that is how you feel about the relationship you both still need to work together for it to last.

I don't know if my ex will stay with her boyfriend. He seems to accept her using the girls as pawns, wanting to split them up so she can still keep her assistance, and has now moved in together 40 minutes away. She has never been alone so I can see them together for now. I have yet to meet him but now that he will be living with my girls every other week - for now - I am sure that day is coming very soon. If "meant to be" means two people who only think of themselves getting together then they are perfect for each other.

No I don't imagine my stbx will stay with her twice divorced camping, hunting, fishing (things she abwhored) boyfriend forever. He has slept with many of her teacher colleagues already (he's the custodian); his eye will find someone else. I predict it will be over once the divorce is finalized and she'll be "free". Think the excitement will be over then.

My X thinks they are all"THE ONE"-Thats why the two he has had since me have lasted soooo long-He feels they are all meant to be with him until the fantasy phase wears off and he discovers that they are normal human being with normal human flaws and traits-He should get one of the robots in the movies you can program to be your perfect mate-if he can't he will keep going from one realtionship to the other leaving a trail of destruction behind him.

megs, yes, I do believe in "soul-mates." BUT, it takes TWO to make it & TWO to break it. Marriage is part of life & what we put into it. If you do not work on your marriage/life, it will NOT work for you. Also, life/marriage is a CHALLENGE. They BOTH take LOTS of work. YOU have to work on your OWN life, while a marriage takes work from BOTH partners to make it work. If it wasn't for life's challenges every day, it would be too boring etc. Even though some of the challenges that are brought to us or smacks us in the face & we do NOT want to deal/go through it, it is a MUST that we deal with it & go FORWARD in LIFE, whether it be married or Single.

Time to stop worrying about the ex and his/her relationships. Take care of yourself.

I don't know about meant to be, but I do believe in fate. I totally agree With Larry's reason, season, lifetime. Enjoy the time you have with every person who means something to you...you never know when they will be gone!