Why can't he get the info. if he's in the house? Yeah, I'm getting sick of having to verify EVERY aspect of my life. Especially where I've spent all the support I've received since Nov. Uh, I do have 3 children and household expenses, how many times to I need to run the same numbers??? Why do I need to come up w/this & that? I'm the one here alone raising 3 kids. Yet we're still waiting for HIM to produce income verification! He wanted this yet he's jerking me around too w/needless legal expenses. To make matters worse, we were scheduled for mediation this morning but because of our lovely spring weather here in Jersey we had to reschedule! Will this EVER end?

he knows he has all the documents.. this is just a ploy to irrate me and hopefully catch me yelling at him or something. He has no derrogatory evidence on me in 5 1/2 months but I have spent about 25000 on legal bullshit that doesn't even touch any issues ( like dealing with his mail...etc)

That's completely insane that you should be expected to get the documents, especially if HIS lawyer is the one asking for them. Do you have a restraining order? If he's trying to antagonize you into something (know what that's like) he shouldn't even be allowed to be there if you have to go. I can relate well to this too, as my STBX has been trying (and telling me) to drive me insane-keeps telling me that I have a personality disorder. Yet, he is the one who is verbally/emotionally abusing me but yet I can't get an order to stop it. There's too much more to go off on that tangent though. What does your attorney say?

I got this stupid request two weeks ago. we talked about it then and I told them I dont' have anything. Today the legal assistant wanted me to go over the list yet again. So I explained to her that I left with 3 pairs of jeans, 3 sweater, toiletries and my 12 year old used car.. end of story.

It's just a load of BS, I hate having the system involved in my life and my childrens. I have a load of paperwork to complete for a custody/visitaion mediation Friday. He thinks he's daddy of the year, yet he's never been more than a sperm doner, too self-absorbed. Now I have to get strangers to understand this w/o appearing to be "vindictive." He doesn't stick to his parenting time & when he takes them they get dumped w/his parents. He's either going to be in their lives or not, but it needs to be consistent, not according to his whims. He just keeps telling me that the court recognizes that HE has a job. Yeah, and so do most parents but they still make a point of seeing their kids.

NO... but why should he get everything????????? tell them u want the house and ur son... hes the abuser so he shouldnt get a damn thing

Because he was smarter than I was. He planned this for months... we waited until my son was sick and he got great advice from his uncle who is a cop.He almost punched me out in front of my son after he had been drinking, he called 911 and reported a domestic stating I wanted to abduct my son ( I only wanted to take him to my friends house two blocks away and my son had a cold) and two male officiers showed up and told me I had to leave since my friend was only two blocks away and he didnot have anywhere to go. I would not leave without my son and the cops told me I was stupid and a lousy mother, my son was too sick to leave. I begged them to let me stay they told me If I stayed and they came back I would be arrested ( for what I dont' know).... but I left and my ex then had possession of the house, my son all the asssets, he immediately changed the locks and filed for temporary custody.. my head was spinning I had not done a thing wrong and guess what the police report doesn't mention him drinking or almosting hitting me at all. It does mention that I was upset and crying .l.lthey used the words hestericall.... imagine that... a cops relative...got great f_cking advice and how to get your spouse out of the house.....it has been 5 1/2 months.. no financial support. no assets, all my phone calls with my son are taped, they are going for 1600++++ amonth in child support and I get nasty nasty legal letters about 3 times a week... that Ineed to respond to.. Ugly

I am not sure if this will help but can you go to an abuse center and my be they can get you a lawyer that is good with this problem.

Thanks everyone.. but I make too much money to qualify for any legal assistance and he frankly does too..that is why he is trying to bled me of cash responding to these stupid information requests...which accomplish nothing except piss away money

my stbx was to produce documents and his attorney just put in he is not in procession of them. That was true they were all at the house with me. Not to say he couldn't have made some phone calls to get them. If you don;t have them I think its okay