
Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
When i red a part that reveals that the relationship is not working and breaking up is being denied or avoided...for emotional reasons usually...I understood the reasons why folks stay together when it is over. Got the book at the library...Check it out.
For two years, I was in limbo. No real closeness, no sex, just basic friendship. Every time I brought up the issue, I was told not to push her. I stayed because I have three kids that I didn't want to lose again.
A little over a year ago, she told me that we were through. She had made her decision. As much as I've hated it in many ways, I found it to be a massive relief just to know what was happening with me. It was a huge blow to the ego knowing that we had failed a second time but at least I know where I'm going now.
If she continues to act like she is undecided you may need to make the decision for her.
Sometimes if you don't seperate or end it while you can still be civil to each other believe me then it get UGLY and you don't recognize yourselves and the people you've become.
Sure sounds like a HUGE Co-Dependancy thing going on between the two of you. One of you must step up to the plate and get real or get out...This limbo stuff isn't helping anybody...in fact, most likely doing more harm than good, such as in the Trust Dept! Stalling the inevitable will only cause you both more baggage that will be brought into your next relationship unless you deal. I would hope you have already considered therapy, but if not, that would be a first step. You both have to want to make it work, otherwise you are fighting an uphill battle that can never be won. Just my humble opinion of course!
Time to get REAL!
Good Luck!