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I posted this response to a post about someone feeling jealous about what they perceive as their Ex's good fortune. I was in the same boat for a little while.
The more I thought about her situation and mine, I realized that alot of us may be delaying our good fortune by putting so much emphasis on their gifts and not our own blessings. Wanted to share this with everyone and not just those that responded to her honest and heartfelt post. My response is below, read her post too all the replies were very helpful.
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Grass is always greener. It's easy to think that your ex is doing better. If you really believe that God has a plan for you he may have a plan for your STBX too. They may be getting all those "blessings" now only to have them ripped away later. Or even worse, they may get all those things and realize that they STILL feel empty inside...and that the love you gave them and they threw away was the greatest blessing of all.
There is no way for you to know what God & the Universe have in store for your STBX.
What you can be sure of is that your anger and jealousy are normal reactions. If you don't find a way to let them go you are only pushing your blessings away.
Alot of us on this site are the ones that got the bulk of the pain in our break ups. Our STBX's have already moved on with other people. Our STBX's are already happier than we are I think there is a direct correlation between those good feelings they have and their incredible good fortune and the pain we are feeling and our incredible ill fortune.
Let the pain go. You are only hurting yourself. Try to find what is good in your life ad the good will grow.
The more I thought about her situation and mine, I realized that alot of us may be delaying our good fortune by putting so much emphasis on their gifts and not our own blessings. Wanted to share this with everyone and not just those that responded to her honest and heartfelt post. My response is below, read her post too all the replies were very helpful.
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Grass is always greener. It's easy to think that your ex is doing better. If you really believe that God has a plan for you he may have a plan for your STBX too. They may be getting all those "blessings" now only to have them ripped away later. Or even worse, they may get all those things and realize that they STILL feel empty inside...and that the love you gave them and they threw away was the greatest blessing of all.
There is no way for you to know what God & the Universe have in store for your STBX.
What you can be sure of is that your anger and jealousy are normal reactions. If you don't find a way to let them go you are only pushing your blessings away.
Alot of us on this site are the ones that got the bulk of the pain in our break ups. Our STBX's have already moved on with other people. Our STBX's are already happier than we are I think there is a direct correlation between those good feelings they have and their incredible good fortune and the pain we are feeling and our incredible ill fortune.
Let the pain go. You are only hurting yourself. Try to find what is good in your life ad the good will grow.
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