
Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
Seriously, you don't. You should learn who you are and most of all, love yourself. You cannot love anyone if you don't love yourself. People who can be trusted will be attracted to you when you reach this state of inner acceptance and love. Write down ten things that good friends would say about you. Know that they are true. Imagine yourself in the near future: what do you look like? How do you dress? Who do you go out with? Focus on the future, get out of the past. Do it!
Don't worry about the future now. Just work on getting over this one.
Speaking from experience, I do think your grief has turned to depression, and perhaps you could do something to lighten that.
I agree with you about not loving again. I just couldn't chance going through this ever again. In my support group they are saying that we will all likely find someone and that we will be wiser in choosing a mate next time. I disagreed with the leader, and said under no terms will I do this again.
If your name was Pete, it would have said "You don't know Pete."
He was just saying that there seems to be gap between how you perceive yourself and who you truly are. I don't believe this was a personal attack or an assault on who you are.
Sometimes, when the same things keep happening to the same people over and over again, it's the choices that were made in selecting who we are going to be with.
Other times, it can be things in our personalities (white knight complexes for example) which draw us to other personalities (people with severe issues that we try to fix).