Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
Well i went to my first counselling session today and i left confused and upset.
I told my counsellor all about the marriage, my childhood, my current relationship and she was really good. listened and said her piece when she felt she needed to add something.
i came out of there almost positive that i knew what i wanted to do but then i do a total change of heart.
if i got back with my husband will he ever trust me? will every argument mean having my relationship thrown back in my face? will he maybe think when he is out 'why not get back at her for the hurt and cheat on her' (i didnt cheat btw, i just got with this guy very close after splitting) I am gonna have to battle against all his family that hate me for hurting him too.
anyone been in this situation?
is there a marriage worth saving after being in a relationship? or is it never gonna work because i have been with someone else?
I told my counsellor all about the marriage, my childhood, my current relationship and she was really good. listened and said her piece when she felt she needed to add something.
i came out of there almost positive that i knew what i wanted to do but then i do a total change of heart.
if i got back with my husband will he ever trust me? will every argument mean having my relationship thrown back in my face? will he maybe think when he is out 'why not get back at her for the hurt and cheat on her' (i didnt cheat btw, i just got with this guy very close after splitting) I am gonna have to battle against all his family that hate me for hurting him too.
anyone been in this situation?
is there a marriage worth saving after being in a relationship? or is it never gonna work because i have been with someone else?
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
Your marriage is your own business and your husband's. If he recommits to your marriage, he should ask his family not to be rude. The rest will be up to you.
I have been separated for 3 wks and have thought about just getting out on a date, but only for distraction, and to not focus on my husband leaving. which is ok, until you find that person you only wanted to hang out with to be more interesting than you anticipated. That was the warning my therapist shared with me. So...I decided to refrain from the opposite sex. Will my feelings change, YOU BET - DAILY. Its a confusing state to be in (separation/divorce).
Chin up, girlfriend!
as much as i really feel for this guy i am starting to wish i hadn't got into this relationship so soon after the split.
bham guy, i know that if i choose my husband i will not be able to stay friends with this guy because it would a) hurt too much and b) be marriage suicide. thats another thing that makes this hard i dont want to loose this guy from my life forever.
You can't control anyone but yourself.
Take your time to figure out what YOU want.
What was it about you that made you go outside of your relationship and turn to another person instead of your husband?
It takes two to make a relationship work, yes - but the only person you can control is YOU. Decide what it is YOU want - figure out how you got where you are and where it is you want to go.
Stand strong in the person you are, forgive yourself for your mistakes and don't look back or you'll cheat yourself out of your future.
There's a lot more :) but that's a start ;)
My counsellor brought this point up today actually, looking back it was an escape from the reality that my brother had died i think, the whole family thing reminded me of my loss all the time everywhere i went within my house reminded me of where i was after the funeral, what i did to try and cope with things.
the other relationship started out as an escape and a new life separate from the pressures of all that.
now if it carries on it will become a part of that.
I was very scared of letting ppl be close to me too in case they were taken suddenly from me like my brother was. there is so much more but not easy to condense it all!
thats pretty much what she said today, i am doing these things becaus ei need to be able to depend on me, i have had so many ppl leave me in my life that im scared ppl will do it again.
The one thing i will say tho is the relationship i am in now i feel totally content in the fact that he wont go anywhere, for some stupid reason he worships me.
In the aftershock, I did some very radical things in my life. I think my ill-considered marriage was one of them.