Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
Friends, so much has come from the MONTHS I've been in this community.
I have come to the realization that being here and reading more, is not helping me in any way moving forward.
Although, I don't mind checking it out and posting advice once in a while, etc. I've found sometimes, it can just be counterproductive to my own self actualization, recovery, and strength.
I have not had a strong feeling of loss from my divorce in a very long time and feel that being here, just keeps the ghost from completely dying.
Now, I know that as so many of you have helped me in the past six months here, I will to, check up and see where/if I can be helpful to someone here.
It is kind of like cutting a tie, but I know there's so many ppl I've become great friends with here, that if it weren't for your help, God knows how long this would take me.
If I get a great piece of info that I know will help, I'll post it.
Yes, if I hit a tailspin, bet your bottom dollar I'll be posting quicker than you can blink an eye.
I've also noticed that I've been reading more and more each day and don't have much to contribute as I had once before. I know my time is best used on other things in my life, like my children, getting my house and finances in order, my job, my family relationships and taking care of me.
I think although I've had my own issues, offering advice here, gave me strength for my own situation.
Best thing moving forward if I can offer one last piece of advice for those experiencing a breakup and/or divorce, is end it and start fresh, or work hard to salvage it, (if you KNOW 100% that your partner is going to work just as hard as you are). Yes, two ways to go. Mine was no option so accepting it was over ASAP really helped me. Don't linger, don't stay on the fence, make a decision for you and if you have children, in the best interest of the children.
That's my only focus besides taking care of myself.
I will come back and give updates on where I am, and where I've been.
That's it. But thank you so, so much. Everyone has been wonderful here, and I thank you and owe many of you lots of advice that you've offered me.
Love to all. JT
I have come to the realization that being here and reading more, is not helping me in any way moving forward.
Although, I don't mind checking it out and posting advice once in a while, etc. I've found sometimes, it can just be counterproductive to my own self actualization, recovery, and strength.
I have not had a strong feeling of loss from my divorce in a very long time and feel that being here, just keeps the ghost from completely dying.
Now, I know that as so many of you have helped me in the past six months here, I will to, check up and see where/if I can be helpful to someone here.
It is kind of like cutting a tie, but I know there's so many ppl I've become great friends with here, that if it weren't for your help, God knows how long this would take me.
If I get a great piece of info that I know will help, I'll post it.
Yes, if I hit a tailspin, bet your bottom dollar I'll be posting quicker than you can blink an eye.
I've also noticed that I've been reading more and more each day and don't have much to contribute as I had once before. I know my time is best used on other things in my life, like my children, getting my house and finances in order, my job, my family relationships and taking care of me.
I think although I've had my own issues, offering advice here, gave me strength for my own situation.
Best thing moving forward if I can offer one last piece of advice for those experiencing a breakup and/or divorce, is end it and start fresh, or work hard to salvage it, (if you KNOW 100% that your partner is going to work just as hard as you are). Yes, two ways to go. Mine was no option so accepting it was over ASAP really helped me. Don't linger, don't stay on the fence, make a decision for you and if you have children, in the best interest of the children.
That's my only focus besides taking care of myself.
I will come back and give updates on where I am, and where I've been.
That's it. But thank you so, so much. Everyone has been wonderful here, and I thank you and owe many of you lots of advice that you've offered me.
Love to all. JT
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
you think you're ready to leave here? really? have you even thought this out at all. IMO you'll be ready to leave here when David Lee Roth tours again with Van Halen.
What? Really? And Wolfie is playing bass? WTF!!!
Have a good life bro, and god bless us. every one.
What I suppose I meant to say more is I am "stepping away", clarification "not living in this BU&D community as I have for so many days. I got to step away to get my normal life and house in order.
I was concentrating too much on where things went and what I needed to do to "move forward."
I am not leaving my buds, just focusing my energy to a greater cause. My life, my family, and yes, my friends will still be sick of me...
This one's for you Tup.
http://youtube.com/watch?v=3CHbFI2Ovc0