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STBX trying to take my daughter

deleted_user
deleted_user
Rced call last night from stbx and he said since my daughter won't talk to him while she is with me he was going to his atty's office today to get her taken away from me.
How in the hell am I suppose to make a 5 year old talk on the phone. I have tried to trick her and tell her its not him and as soon as she gets on the phone she tells me I lied to her and hands the phone back to me.
deleted_user
deleted_user
kelly, your stbx is an ass, you can't make your daughter talk to him, and don't try to trick her, because you'll ruin her trust in you. and let him run to an attorney, so what, the attorney can't make her talk to him either. do you have speaker phone, perhaps that might be worth a try. what does he think, you have a gag on her. there is one thing i learned, kids have their own feelings, their own minds, and their own certain behaviors and thats perfectly ok. our job is to nurture and love them. not force them to do things they don't want to, of course within reason.
Seashells1
Seashells1
Also, make sure your attorney knows. It sounds like your 5 year old may need some legal protection.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Try not to let his threats get to you too much. Just keep your own atty informed of what he says and does. And don't lie to your daughter to make her talk to him. The only obligation you have is to make her available to talk, if she doesn't want to, that's her right (kids have rights too!)
patti22
patti22
As far as I can tell, the courts can order visitation but not phone calls. But who knows. I suppose even phone calls can be taped or supervised. And don't lie to her anymore, bad for your relationship with her.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Thats right they can't make her talk on no phone is he crazy, Don't worry about that they can't take your daughter for that.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Nonsense. He cannot take her away.

Neither should she be made to talk to him; tricking her will only make it hard for her to trust you as well, IMO.
Che2
Che2
My ex does that from time to time. Not take them but take me back to court so that he can have "joint custody". Used to bug me..now it's in one ear and out the other.

You can't make her talk on the phone..and don't let him scare you into tricking or forcing her.
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