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Update:
Every night i call the kids at exactly 8:30 pm. I had previously worked out this agreement with her.A few nights ago my stbx text me and let me know that "it would be in your best interest not to contact me". She sent two messages along these lines.I let her know i would be callimg at 8:30 regardless and as arranged.She than stated her discaimer again.(via text).
Time comes and i call. She refuses to let me talk to the kids and than starts to bait me into certain situations whereby she knows my buttons can be pushed. She is questioning me about things that happened or did not happen over the last 7 yrs.Making assertions and unsubstantiated accusations about everything under the sun.I remain calm but steady in my own version of how and why things happened.
Toward the end of a now hour long conversation..she than "hints" to me that she is recording our conversation.I immediately become uneasy but continue talking as though nothing has changed.
Where does the madness stop? I only want to move on and work with her to love and care about our children.She has stated and shown that she is out to "ruin" me and give me no or little contact with my son and step daughter and at any cost.Grrrrrrrr......
_Savery
Update:
Every night i call the kids at exactly 8:30 pm. I had previously worked out this agreement with her.A few nights ago my stbx text me and let me know that "it would be in your best interest not to contact me". She sent two messages along these lines.I let her know i would be callimg at 8:30 regardless and as arranged.She than stated her discaimer again.(via text).
Time comes and i call. She refuses to let me talk to the kids and than starts to bait me into certain situations whereby she knows my buttons can be pushed. She is questioning me about things that happened or did not happen over the last 7 yrs.Making assertions and unsubstantiated accusations about everything under the sun.I remain calm but steady in my own version of how and why things happened.
Toward the end of a now hour long conversation..she than "hints" to me that she is recording our conversation.I immediately become uneasy but continue talking as though nothing has changed.
Where does the madness stop? I only want to move on and work with her to love and care about our children.She has stated and shown that she is out to "ruin" me and give me no or little contact with my son and step daughter and at any cost.Grrrrrrrr......
_Savery
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
Keep making the calls to your kids! They deserve to know their daddy cares!
Hugs!
I rarely talk to her..i only talk to the kids.I ask for them if she answers and if she gets back on the phone afterwards..i express my gratitude and end the conversation!
A vast majority of the time.SHE contacts me.Now i feel as though i have to tip toe around her. :(
My ex had a bunch of messages I left him transcribed and tried to bring them up in court when we had our custody hearing. The judge did not want to hear them. They tried to make me crazy. My ex had provoked me into alot of the things said in the conversation. Let him play games, in the end it should not affect you.
First divorce so alot of this stuff is new to me.:(
Sorry you're going through this.
Shows that you are reactive and have a volitile side...sorry.. but women.. pple.. anyone can manipulate things. I use to be an Investigator..lots of ploys used...and yes, my EX was taping me to.. to show that I was emotionally unstable. Meanwhile he was driving me and the children nuts.
just cover yourself. No discussion about the divorce.. only talk about the children.. keep it brief, and keep your tone in check...and get your own tape recorder.
Talk to your lawyer.. this is bs not being able to talk to your children.
Chur: Glad to nbe back :)