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stbx might be planning to take kids out of country

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My stbx has a boyfriend from UK. She says that she "would never" take the kids out of the country; but I found evidence on her computer that she has been looking up information on passports, and the laws regulating this issue. I asked her about it and she said, once again, that she would never take the kids out of the country and that she was simply keeping herself informed of the laws. She is going to meet her boyfriend in the UK in december. I don't know what will follow. I don't care who she's dating, but does anyone know if there's anything I can state in the divorce that will prevent her from taking my kids out of the country. I'm a soldier and I have been deploying about every other year. If my kids were out of the country I'd never get to seet them. Thanks for any help.
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I believe there are provisions that can be imposed preventing custodial parent from relocating to another state, let alone another country.

Get to family court or an attorney. And you get the passports and hold onto them.

PS - SHE IS LYING. If you ever have the opportunity to have her arrested for coming at you, do it. Get order of protection, then custody...she won't be going anywhere.
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Get in touch with your ADC or Legal center back home if you can.
They should be able to help you out, especially since you're deployed.
Make sure your First Shirt or First Sergeant knows what's going on, especially if you know him or her on a first name basis.

I hate how a lot of the military services can only kick in retrospectively, but this is one instance where something can be done -now-.
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Yes! I agree w/ RobNi! I went through a nasty custody battle w my H n his x. You can get there passports; preventing her from doing so. You can have that in writing, in the divorce decree or custody papers, she has to get your written consent to leave state even. If she breaks that, it's jail time on many levels. Good luck! Call and attorney, family court, child protective services, anything; someone will show you the legal way.
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Ivan, contact your attorney like LAST YEAR!~! Have some provisions made to be put in the papers that SHE is NOT to leave the COUNTY without the courts permission first. This CAN be done. I would also be contacting the person in the service & let them know what is going on & see if they can help you out any. "Keep Your Chin UP!~!" I wish you the BEST of luck!~!
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I agree with RobNi. See and atty and keep those kids safe and protected.
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You can also put the "no sleeping with a non married person in front of the kids" statement in your divorce decree. I still don't know how you can enforce this.
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