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STBX is going nuts

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I don't know what to do and am a little freaked! My stbx has been driving my my house and leaving me messages about me not being home and/or that he has been by and I have been gone. He called my brother and said I was missing which freaked him out and now he is asking my family if I have a boyfriend.

He is the one who cheated and asked for the divorce. What the hell is going on?
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Sounds like it's His turn to squirm.

Don't worry about Him, you have your own heart to worry about and deal with, let Him learn to deal with His.
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thanks TamiJ1. You are right. I just don't like that he is driving by the house. It is about time he feels as bad as I did a couple of months ago.
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My stbx did the same stuff...
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cheaters always want to blame the faithful. It justifies there behaviour. After all they can't blame thereself. so it has to be some else's fault
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Jungle Joe, you are absolutely right.

The spouse that cheats has to create this little fantasy that it is really all the other spouse's fault. Otherwise, they would have no one to blame but themselves.

The little fantasy they build up cannot last forever, however.
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let him go nuts and avoid him altogehter. the grass probably turned brown on him instead of staying greener...
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Kelly, Change the locks on your doors - this way he can drive by all he wants, but can't get in. Keep your outside light on - all night long. Just keep yourself safe - I have no idea if he has ever been violent with you, but better to be safe then sorry. Also tell your family not to buy into his crap - like calling them and looking for you. You did it, you are putting him behind you and moving on. Keep going forward. I am here for you.
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Take a impromptu vacation and really drive him nuts!
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Borrow a friends extra car and park it in the drive overnight.
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my stbx does this too He is trying to overcome his guilt by trying to blame me. He is the cheater not me and I am so tired of accused. I am trying to let him stew wihen he cant find me and being unavailable to him especially his favorite time to call the middle of the night.

Hang in there be safe.
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My stbx was going crazy about me talking to my neighbor. Her mother kept asking is I was dating this person or that person. Man, talk about screwed up.
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As long as his actions aren't a threat to you, as TamiJ1 previously stated, let him squirm. He is feeling guilty and is searching for a reason to dislike you, there are possibly some feelings still lingering. Just don't let it bother you, ignore anything he does.
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Change your locks. If he keeps driving around ask the police if he is stalking you in the legal sense. Maybe a cop can explain that his behavior will not be tolerated. And explain to family not to reveal things to him. Be careful. Its best to err on the safe side.
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A lot of good advice and ideas....I actually had my youngest brother park his new car in my driveway...word has it that the stbx is PISSED....lockes have been changed!
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