I have been married 25 years, 32 in the relationship, and have finally given up -- I am VERY patient, and have worked with this man's idiosyncrhacies FOREVER, been clear and concise (and repetetive) in my communication with him about my needs (few) in the relationship. He has NEVER responded. So I quit. When I finally realized it, it had been so long, and so far, that there is no way I can come back. I am seeing a therapist to help me navigate my feelings around the dissolution, and I firmly believe that the divorce is the right thing to do, both for me and my kids. NOW he wants to make all those changes I have requested over the years, and in particular, the last year. Now that HE is in pain,he is willing to change. I am past the point of no return. He bailed on me last year during my cancer treatment, left me in a corner to rot on my own -- cry all my tears, do all my treatment, and hurt...by myself. Among other things, I cannot EVER forgive him for that. He is driving me NUTS with this day-late-dollar-short sort of effort. And he won't leave the house, even tho' I have asked. How can I get thru this without losing it?
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