I would be livid. You need to express to your stbx that this is between you and him and this is none of her business. As long as she is involved with this you will not even discuss it. Go ahead and try to find an attorney for yourself so you can get the advice that you need for your sake. Don't let him take control. You need to take control and show him that you are a strong woman. I know that this probably sounds harsh but you need to stand up for yourself and take control. Remember what comes around goes around.

Sit back, take a breath and analyze the situation. His GF is obviously driving the schedule because they are anxious to get married and live happily ever after (pretty low odds for that). This gives you enormous clout once you understand their motives. No woman enjoys a shack-up relationship and she wants marriage vows to validate her selfish decision. Use it to gain a better deal.

I do currently have an attorney. My stbx asked me not to let my attorney contact his with this offer. Sounds suspicious to me. I told my attorney this and he said it is unethical for him to withhold info like that. This is getting to be such a mess. I will not lie or be decietful so my x can live happily everatfer with his new squeeze.

First of all they won't live happily everafter, if he did it with her he will also do it to her. Let your attorney handle it all and don't let your ex or the gf bully you into anything stand strong you have all of us here to support you.

Rule #1: Use your lawyer Rule #2: When in doubt refer to rule #1. Really. Don't let either of them railroad you into a disadvantageous position.

Ouch, what the h-ll. How or what attorney allowed the gf to be involved in any division of "your" marital assesets. Do you have an attorney? Get one quick, next it may be issues of parenting time, she does not have the right to be invloved in.
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I am so frustrated today. My attorney was supposed to let my stbx's attorney that her writing this up was unethical. You see my stbx wanted to by pass his attorney all together because he thinks his new gf knows how to do this. This is such a mess. I live a pretty small town and nothing happens fast, so now I feel like I am waiting for all them to get it done.

Has he always been so immature? Hang in there, I assure you there is an end in sight. I went through something similar...it was obvious that all of the information he was bringing to mediation was straight from her mouth. He even suggested she sign as a notary public! They couldn't get married until our divorce was final so at that point I had the advantage and it felt so good to say 'no' to that- I in no way wanted her name on my divorce decree, although it would have been very fitting. I did contact my attorney about her notarizing it, and I was told it was a conflict of interest because she had something to gain by my divorce being finalized.

So he thinks she is knowledgable in this area....is this a habit she has that makes her so experienced, lol.

Seriously, let your attorney take care of it. Even tho it seems it is taking forever, rest easy knowing it is being done right and fair.