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deleted_user 10/27/2007

last night he stayed on the couch. he has been crawling in bed with me every night even tho we're divorcing. bizarre huh. last night he didnt. why would he want to get in bed with me every night anyway. i was told by my doctor it is emotionally not helathy to be sleeping in the same bed during this time. Well of course it isnt!Not to mention the tension in my back from trying to stay on my side of the bed.

ChiTownBear 10/27/2007

maybe he finally realized sleeping in the bed wasnt a good idea.

deleted_user 10/27/2007

A bed's more comfortable than a couch, but if he wants to get divorced, let him discover the warm embrace of Holiday Inn.

deleted_user 10/27/2007

Sounds like it bothered you that he wasn't in bed. Mine stays in bed and every once in a while he will tough my legs and it's so funny how I instinctly move away. Sad, at one time I would have loved it. Maybe he is realizing that he needs to disnce himself from you and will attempt to do that. Give the guy a break, sounds like you are upset at him for doing sometihng you are already trying to do yourself.

deleted_user 10/27/2007

Maybe he is letting go. It isn't good to share your bed if you don't want to. Have you offered to stay on the sofa if he really wants to sleep in the bed?

CanadianRose 10/27/2007

Mine was selfish enough to take the bed...move out my office and convert that into a bedroom... I got the couch for 3 years.

He took the Queen-size bed when he left.. no way I wanted it anyways.

deleted_user 10/27/2007

If my stbx even Tried to crawl into my bed he would lose that one remaining ball...not that he would care :-/

deleted_user 10/27/2007

Ann, I congratulate you and especially your back.

deleted_user 10/27/2007

My stbx stayed at the house for 4 months until she saved up enough to move out. We continued to sleep in the same bed during that time.

Needless to say it was awkward....to put it mildly. I agree it isn't healthy, and it may have prevented me from starting to deal with things internally, making the day she actually did move out, more jarring and difficult.

deleted_user 10/27/2007

I am embarrass to admit that he sometimes shares the bed but not lately. We both alternate sleeping on the couch also. It was a bit awkward but I did not want to appear mean. He has a bad back and the couch is not good for that. Am I making excuses? May be.

deleted_user 10/27/2007

I'm afraid that I'm with Tami...if my x had tried to even sit down on MY bed I definitely wouldn't have had to worry about the OW anymore. Or I would have at least steam cleaned all of my linens AND the mattress.

deleted_user 10/27/2007

I've been on the couch for almost two weeks now. It was my choice. I want nothing to do with that bed.

Now he wants me to set up an air mattress in the spare room so that he can watch TV before he goes to work early in the morning. He says I'm "screwing with his routine." Gotta love it!

deleted_user 10/27/2007

I would be happy if my wife would sleep with me.

deleted_user 10/28/2007

I have to sleep in the livingroom, after my wifes affairs.

If I sleep in the bed, I have nightmares about her.

So I sleep in the livingroom with the TV going and that helps.

Divorce is a very tough thing.

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