Breakups & Divorce Support Group

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Staying Strong

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I have been having dreams of my stbx. It does not help to have these dreams as I want to cope and move on. My head tells me that there is no chance to reconcile from her part (she wants this divorce) and has shown no signs. Basically I know it is trully over. However despite the pain my heart still longs for her and I miss her. The mornigs are especially tough for me. Sometimes I feel I should call to see if she is sure this is what she wants. My head tells me not to, and to let her go completely. Anyone else in the same boat? Everyone tells me to let time heal my wounds but it seems to get harder.
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yes i'm in the same boat and it keeps just drifting. no solid direction. no destination. it has been 92 days since any contact and the past week has been hell, feel like the beginning again. just hang in there. hoping the new year will start a whole new life.
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I know how you feel. If you call her your most likely not going to like what you hear. It will be more painful. She has made her choice as my husband, although he is wishy washy, and we have to live with that decision. You will get stronger. I really recommend you get into some sort of therapy though to help you deal with this. You deserve someone better than her. A woman who is willing to walk away without looking back and thinking about your feelings is not deserving of you. Keep your chin up and remember you deserve better.
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Unfortunately it does get a lot harder before it starts to get any easier.

I totally get the contradiction between heart and mind, it's usually what compels couples to get stuck in that vicious back and forth cycle. Don't give in to that though as it rarely does more than cause additional damage to the relationship.

It is always best to move forward, never back. If she can't appreciate you or your love then it's best for you to move on and find someone who can and does. Life is too short to demand anything less. Hang in there!
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