My husband quit couples counseling. He says he loves me, but he doesn't need any more counseling. The therapist will see me alone now. My husband is very controlling and manipulative. The therapist told him and me that he is a narcissist. She hoped it would help both of us understand his behavior better, but it just gave my huband another excuse for his behavior, "Hey, you know I'm a narcissist. That's why I do these things. I can't help it." The therapist told him he can't use this as an excuse, so he's not going to therapy anymore. My grown kids are all upset because he told them I'm being too hard on him and not understanding enough of his needs. I don't want to drag them into our marital issues, so it appears as though I"m being controlling, when it's really my husband who is doing that. I feel so bad for the kids and for myself, of course, that at times I wonder if I should just give in to my husband's latest scheme, just to keep the peace. I know it won't work for long, though. He'll just have another scheme soon and expect me to give into that one, too, like I've been doing for 41 years. It's tough to stay strong. I feel like a selfish bitch. Advice and support from everyone here would be greatly appreciated.
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